On today’s episode of how did I make my toddler mad at me…..

I told him he couldn’t eat cat food

I took his toy vacuum away after he shoved a cheese stick inside it

Wouldn’t let him throw away the poopy diaper that he had

And my favorite 🤦🏻‍♀️I wouldn’t let him eat the chips he hide between the couch cushions yesterday.

What has anyone else done today that was so uncomfortable 😂

in our community

Guilt over leaving children so late

Hi all - it’s 4am and I’m crying over feeling guilty for leaving children so late in life (40). It’s my biggest regret, but it wouldn’t have been the right time for me any earlier. My baby is 6 months.

I’m feeling guilt that my child potentially will only have me until their 40s, maybe 50. That I’ll leave this earth while he still needs his mother. I’m being stupid because I can’t do anything about it.

Anybody in the same boat with any words of wisdom?

Partners

Does anybody else / has anybody started to resent their partner?
We have 2 babies 11 months apart, he does 4 on 4 off at work, (2 days & 2 nights) anyway, I’ve started to not like him being around him or anything. For the fact of I do everything for the kids with no help.. he never gets up with them, brings them out for the day, lets me have a break even for a few hours.. I can’t remember the last time I was able to breath on my own 😆. (Btw I love being a mam!) but it would be nice to have a little help.. I feel like a single mum in a relationship with there dad 😆

How do I talk to my partner about how im feeling

Ive always had difficulty expressing how I feel and talking about things. Lately ive felt more irritated at my partner because of the things he dose or says. For context he works sometimes long hours as a plumber and he is the only one able to work right now. We got pregnant pretty soon into our relationship and didnt move in together until a month before our son was born. He was behind on bills due to his ex and had alot of debt because of that. He also had to get a new car, so the bills just kept coming. We live in my parents basement that is an apartment so we dont have ro pay rent thankfully but we are still hardly making it. With his car payment and insurance and credit card debit, being paid weekly really puts us in a bind. I have no clothes that fit me except for a few things and both of our shoes have holes in them. I have been telling him for months to get new shoes but he just refuses. Says it to difficult to find because of his shoe size. We was going to use our tax return to pay off most of this stuff but we have had such a difficult time with that and still haven't gotten it. Hes always making comments like " we are never going to get it so why even think that we will" or we will always live paycheck to paycheck it is what it is.
We try to budget and do what we can to save but its just not enough. Lately he has started to make comments about our sons birthday which is less then 3 weeks away at this point in time and saying things like we are going to have to host it here we cant rent a place when there is to much we need here at the house. And people are just going to have to use their imagination because we are not going to have anything there. I personally have been planning his party abd have been putting money away so we can get a few things like a smash cake and decor for his high chair. Now he is saying he wants to use that money to get him shoes because he cant keep putting it off and that has me really irritated because I have this hole plan and been saving for about 2 months so we can have some things. I dont know what to do. I definitely dont want to have it here. We had our gender reveal here and it was so stressful. I just want to rent a place for 2 hours have our village show uo and celebrate our son. How do I talk to him about this without my irritation coming though.

Boyfriends family

My boyfriends family keep getting in his head about me being a stay at home mom. Him and I both agreed this is what we wanted because we dont want to send the baby to daycare. His family is making it a big deal about him bringing in the only income. My boyfriend makes more than enough to support us so we are not struggling at all. Anyone else dealing with this situation and how do you deal with it. Its messing with me mentally and makes me feel horrible on a daily basis.

How do I manage?

How am I suppose to be ok with the fact that my husband wants a girlfriend. He’s so mentally fucked up about this girl he was with for a few years that burned to death in a kidnapping car accident. That ten years later he’s telling me because of Raina (the girl that died), because of my lack in care/trying for him, and the lack of family love he needs a girlfriend. That he wants to die all the time and he just needs something to take away the pain. And that he would do it for me if I was in his shoes so he wants me to do it for him. That if I love him I shouldn’t tell him no to this. More like he won’t accept a no. But that he doesn’t want me to leave and doesn’t want to leave me. That he does love me. That he wouldn’t want to be without me. That he love our family (we have kids). I’m just not enough to take the pain away. To stop her screams he hears in his head. To make it not as bad. So he wants ME to find him a girl to be able to distract him from the thought of her. Like this is so beyond fucked up that any time I think about it, it makes me physically sick to my stomach. Like my heart is trying to fall out of my chest. But I love him. And I really do just want him to feel better. I see how much he hurts every single day. How sad he is. How much he hates his life. And I hate that for him. I just want him to be happy and at peace. But I just wish so so so much it didn’t have to be because of another woman.
And don’t get me wrong our relationship is far from perfect. We’ve got into fist fights, name called, belittled, cheated, lied, was petty, egged the other on. But man has is also been beautiful. Kind and heartfelt. We’ve been through so much together in these 9 years. We have three kids. We built a home together. We are working on buying land. We have invested so much into each other. How can I throw all of this away over one thing, even though this one thing is breaking me..

Complaint about bf

He was just dumb enough to call me ignorant because i have to google some of the words he says to me. I may be ignorant but hes the dumbest man alive, with comments like that. All while im experiencing latent labor for days. Im exhausted, emotional, and have no patience. Why the hell would someone say that to me NOW