Would you be okay with your partner behaving like this?
I’m going out tomorrow with friends, my partner and their partners for a bottomless brunch. I found a nice top to wear but my partner got angry and said I couldn’t wear it because I “don’t need to have my boobs out.” I then chose a square neck top but he pulled a face about that too so to keep the peace I’ve now settled on wearing a T-shirt.
I spoke to my friends and they’re all wearing lovely tops, including corset-style/square-neck tops. I asked my partner if I could wear something similar but he said I should wear something “respectable” and that the tops I showed him would “piss him off.”
Now I feel like I’m going to be really underdressed and I don’t know what I can wear that he’ll approve of.
He’s also said he doesn’t want other men looking at me but I can’t help feeling uncomfortable with that when I’ll be sitting there while he’s looking at other women who are wearing revealing clothes. I’ve tried talking to him but it just causes a row.
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This is controlling behaviour and the start of abuse. Leave before it gets worse.
He's being really controlling, wear what you want and if he has a problem with it, dump him. You shouldn't have to plan your outfits around his insecurity. Giving in to him this time will just make him think his behaviour is okay and that he has the right to dictate what you wear.
No nooooo.
My partner helped me tit tape into a crop top before brunch .
What a lot of men don't understand is many of us don't dress for them. We dress in what we like or what makes us feel good.
How long have you been with this guy? This is a massive red flag, and he's controlling you. It'll only get worse if you don't stand up for yourself. Wear what you like.
The men that act this way are usually the men that are the ones cheating
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