Advice/experience

I have had two children and I can say raising both of my children were total opposites

My first daughter is currently 21 months and my second daughter is currently 3 months. My first daughter was born at 36wks because I had pre-e and she was slightly jaundiced. She never slept through the night until she was over a year old. She has a tongue and lip tie and we used a nipple shield for about 8 weeks. And I had awful pp depression.
My second daughter has a perfect latch, has slept through the night since a few weeks old, I had her at 37wks due to high bp, slight jaundice. But both of my girls sleep and I feel fantastic.
But there is always a chance your second will be either way, every child is different

Every kid and mom is different 🩷 That said, I had a similar(ish) experience with my daughter except my birth was traumatic (c section for vasa previa) and we were in the hospital for almost 3 months total with the NICU stay. I was also re hospitalized 2x postpartum for bleeding then for psychosis because I hallucinated too. My daughter is 3.5 and still doesn’t sleep through the night unless we co sleep. She’s never independent played, we’ve done 3 months of OT, the therapist said some kids just don’t independent play but are otherwise developmentally “normal”. All that said, the older she’s gotten and the more her personality develops, I feel confident in her being an only child, to the point of having a tubal ligation. However, my husband and I have discussed fostering older kids (5+) once our daughter is older if our feelings change about raising an only child 🩷