Is this fair
My partner goes to work then will go straight out wether it's out with friends to the gym or to do what ever he wants come home mostly after bed time ,which can't be helped if he's working but on days we're he may finish at 3pm I'd love for him to just come home and help me with our 2 under 2
He will just go out and do what ever he wants , I get that he needs his free time but what about my times from the kids
I just he's begining to piss me off and out of 5 days he may come home straight after work twice but then will focus on cooking dinner he's a chef and loves cooking but when he's home he needs to take over or share the load
He's a great dad on the days he's off but we had this chat many times it's going in one ear and out the other .
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Oh gosh… I would say have a last chat. Try be „understanding” BUT put your needs across too… it’s not right or fair it will drive you crazy and run you to the ground and most important damage your relationship… maybe have someone there when you have the conversation? He might realise something or take accountability if you have someone that you trust to be there?
Like I just think he doesn't realise now he has kids he can't just go out or gym when he likes and if I say I need help he needs to be comming home , he just says this is the life of a mum it's just what U gotta do I think he's being a prick and I'm fed up of it.
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Is this fair
My partner goes to work then will go straight out wether it's out with friends to the gym or to do what ever he wants come home mostly after bed time ,which can't be helped if he's working but on days we're he may finish at 3pm I'd love for him to just come home and help me with our 2 under 2
He will just go out and do what ever he wants , I get that he needs his free time but what about my times from the kids
I just he's begining to piss me off and out of 5 days he may come home straight after work twice but then will focus on cooking dinner he's a chef and loves cooking but when he's home he needs to take over or share the load
He's a great dad on the days he's off but we had this chat many times it's going in one ear and out the other .
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