Sex drive

Is it normal during first trimester to not be interested in sex at all? I feel very guilty about it

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hormones are changing it’s normal for things to change. sex drive is one of them, it can increase / decrease. absolutely nothing to feel guilty about x

I have had no sex drive first and second trimester I find my husband absolutely volatile and I can’t stand him 🤦‍♀️

My first trimester was an awful experience so definitely no sex drive but it's normal to not want sex your body is putting all it's energy into growing your baby, sex will come eventually when your body and hormones are ready

It was totally like that for me . There was a love hate relationship and honestly it still comes and goes. It's like you have a permanent mom brain so foreplay and timing means everything. Especially when you're so exhausted

that’s how it was for me it wasn’t until the end of my second trimester i got my sex drive back. now in the third trimester i have sex at least twice a week!

My pregnancy with twins I was absolutely repulsed by my partner, it comes back in time! Don't put any pressure on yourself x

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Not sure what I am hoping with this post. Maybe some comfort.
I will be back to work next week and my baby will start nursery tomorrow (4 days a week) full day.

I know it is part of the process for working out of the house moms, and I am been trying to get my head around but I am struggling. When I think that I won’t be the one spending the day with her, it breaks my heart.

I am trying to think of the main reasons I am back to work. To move to a house with more space, to provide for her etc but my heart is broken.

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Thank you

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Making friends is becoming a full time job.

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Its really getting me down too. I either dont hear back, get ghosted or just rearranged constantly. I get it, we got kids, i get it? Your a single mum too and childcare isnt available. My god- bring them! We can struggle together.

I guess im just ranting at this point. And it isnt even about having the money to do things.. I always offer to treat, I dont even care. I just want somebody to make plans with.

Gonna go cry

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