How are we holding up mama?
Baby girl is 4 weeks old now, partner has gone back to work and the fact that dad's only have 2 weeks is borderline cruelty. 2 days in and I hate that I have to choose between feeding myself, doing chores and hyping myself up to go get food. I have a fomo baby so we have to deal with 3h wake windows combined with the witching hour and overtireness screaming. I almost had a breakdown yesterday. I know it will get better but don't help cope now š it's one day at a time.
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Iām in the same boat as you, but my little one is 3 weeks old, cluster feeding and only contact nappingš
Just keep telling myself that this will get easier and wonāt last forever
Dreading my partner going back to work next week! They should 100% have the same leave rights as the women - though mat pay is rubbish really we couldnāt both be on it!
Just try and be kind to yourself, just getting through the day is an achievement ! Anything like having a shower etc is a massive bonus. Itās just a phase (I keep repeating to myself during a cluster feed)
My husband goes back to work tomorrow and I'm not looking forward to it at all. Our baby is 3 and a half weeks old and she doesnt settle well at night, last night I got maybe 4 hours across the entire night and thats just because her dad took her from about 7
Forget the chores, don't stress about the not important things. Can your partner make you snacks/packed lunch before going to work? Or make night before, get comfy on the sofa and enjoy the cuddles, they don't last forever.x
Same here, heās gone back to work and has to leave at 5:30am. On top of that I have a 6&4 year old that need getting to school in the morningš®āšØš timing a feed and getting ready for school Iām stressing about tbh, the past 3 days have been okay but i know its not going to be smooth every morning. This morning she was due at 8:30am so i gave her a quick ounce at 8:20am then we had to leave. Iāve also found myself to be eating absolute rubbish like biscuits and crisps just because theyāre quickš my partner is exhausted from work and the early starts and baby is awake 7-12 every nightš„ŗ. People say it gets easier but Iāve been waiting since I had my first in 2020 for it to get easier lmao
My husband had luckily, for noe anyway, decided not to do overtime as he used to do 12 hours shifts, but now is going to do 8 hours but his shifts change each week and so there will be weeks when im completely alone at night and some weeks were he is up at half 4 so needs to be able to sleep. Ive seen people say its easier at 8 weeks but I dont know how we are expected to make it to then. We combi feed as well now because the cluster feeding was just too much
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How are we holding up mama?
Baby girl is 4 weeks old now, partner has gone back to work and the fact that dad's only have 2 weeks is borderline cruelty. 2 days in and I hate that I have to choose between feeding myself, doing chores and hyping myself up to go get food. I have a fomo baby so we have to deal with 3h wake windows combined with the witching hour and overtireness screaming. I almost had a breakdown yesterday. I know it will get better but don't help cope now š it's one day at a time.
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