Bit of a vent

Hi all sorry to bring it online but I am first time mum my little boy is 7 months and where I do love him so so much I just can’t help but find myself feeling so so alone, I go to 2 play groups every week and struggle to actually speak to anyone as I feel so out of place I’m struggling to admit to anyone how tired and exhausted and overwhelmed I am as everyone says how good my baby is and he is but I’m so tired of being the only one who has my hair pulled face grabbed and scratched and it just feels it wasn’t like this at first, and as my boy got older others just distance themselves more, I try and reach out arrange him to meet family and friends have always be told they are to busy, I’m trying to ask my partner for help to still get bothered when I try and take for myself he’s coming every time he makes a noise should I make a bottle should I do this should I do that so I just don’t actually get to do what I want to, I feel horrible for letting my baby play with his toys on his own for a few moments, I want to try and make friends where I can complain and not feel bad because my boy is generally a good boy over all, where I can just be tired and moan where I can get out more

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Dont be afraid to open up to people, even at play groups, majority of the mums will be thinking the same as you!
Your partner needs to learn to do stuff on his own, maybe consider leaving the house for a couple hours and tell him to only contact you in an emergency, even if you just go do a food shop to start with, he'll figure out for himself what to do and will hopefully start thinking for himself when youre there too, my other half was like this with our 1st, 2nd time round was easier 😅
Independent play is good for them, so dont feel guilty 😊

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