TMI

No, this isn't normal behaviour. It's coercive behaviour and it's not OK. Ask yourself this- why does he value sex for himself over your comfortability, why does he want it regardless of whether you want or will enjoy it? Are you a thing for his pleasure? You're supposed to be a person who he loves and respects, if you say no then that's no and that's the end of the conversation. He's allowed to miss intimacy, talk to you about his feelings and ask about yours and see if there is a way you can work together towards increasing intimacy. He's not allowed to have a tantrum about it.

My husband is like this too. He's not as bad as he used to be. But he still has his moments. Since having baby 2 and 3, my sex drive has depleted.

There are times where I just give it him to shut him up. Or I just flat out ignore him.

My thing is, if he isn't trying to initiate then he doesnt want it as bad as he think he does.

I am the “he” in this situation. We take very good care of each other emotionally, he especially. Hes extremely hands on with housework & childcare, and I don’t want for anything. I couldn’t ask for a better man to share my life & raise kids with.

But this man can go weeks without it. It’s just who he is. By day 3, I’m hella annoyed and I definitely get an attitude.

Last year, our only big fight was about just that. And he does know that it’s entirely wrong as a spouse to make your partner go without, and he does try to be intimate a little more often.

I mean I get it for sure think about if it was the other way and your partner didn’t want to give you any we’d feel like wtf what’s going on. I’m not saying give in because I absolutely get it I have a toddler and 10 month while being 6 months pregnant and sometimes I say no actually alot bc I’m tired and he’s like omg blah blah. They honestly will never understand how it feels truly to be pregnant tired even if we tell them they just think we over react. I just tell him I’m tired and to pursue me all day not just the night time and that starts by him helping a lot more than usual and being extra affectionate towards me and taking things off my plate till the night and then I’ll be like yk what I don’t feel as tired and he helped so much something about it is just like so much better and does give you energy to be in the mood lol.

My exs would be really mean about it. My current partner doesn’t complain, but he’ll be hurt that I don’t pay attention/give him affection for a month (med side effect). When I was pregnant, sex was so uncomfortable/painful. He would go months without and never said anything, never made me feel guilty even though I know he has a high libido. We would try bc I wanted it, but it usually wasn’t successful for both of us. The right person understands, maybe he’d be exhausted if he had to care for both of them.