Would you be annoyed?
So I was just putting my pumps on and I look out my window and next doors kid is in my garden I’m assuming getting the ball back! Now in my opinion I would NEVER let my child let themselves into someone else’s garden! If you kick your ball into someone’s garden that’s your own fault, leave it there and they will throw it back when they realise! It wouldn’t annoy me as much but these children are FERAL and the parents never once tell them to quiet down(even if they are out at 9-10pm) they constantly bike on my drive because there is a hill which they have nearly been hit by cars MULTIPLE times because they have no road sense! It seems the parents just don’t care what they do if I’m honest.
I just wanted to know if people think it’s unreasonable of me to go round and ask them to not let their children in my garden or are we letting peoples children do as they please?(coming from someone who has never had neighbours before)
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Nah that's a really reasonable boundary, not abnormal at all to not want anyone who doesn't live with you just wondering into your garden! They should knock and ask for it back and if you don't answer they should just wait.
I think them alone getting the ball out of your garden isn't a problem at all and you're being unreasonable. They're just kids playing ball let them live its not a big deal for them to come grab their ball...? Different if they came in and started pissing about ofcourse but if there just grabbing it there doing no harm why make them wait for you to throw it back when they could keep playing. Im not speaking about any of the other issues but this I wouldn't say is a problem
This is a tricky one actually 😂
I would not allow my kids to just let themselves into someone else’s garden. If they kick their ball into a neighbours garden, we will go and knock and politely ask for it back.
But having said that, I’m not sure I’d make a big deal out of our neighbours kid coming round for his ball and just letting himself in 😂
I don’t think you’re unreasonable for not wanting your neighbours just letting themselves into your garden, though. It is your garden after all, not public land 🤷🏼♀️
In your front or back garden ?
I would think that back garden has a gate so would lock
If front, we were always taught as children to knock first just to say 'can we please have our ball back' but if no one was in to just get it sensibly.
This was in the 90s though where all the kids played out
If front garden, then as long as they weren't messing about, then I'd be ok. I sometimes see children out front and think 'what are thry doing' but I do also think it highlights how much less tolerant we are of children being children because we're not as used to seeing them 'playing out' anymore
I understand everyone’s opinions! I think for me a lot of it is that I’m pumping and having to get my boobs out constantly and I would like to do that in privacy considering it’s my home and to not have a young boy staring in at me😂
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