PDA (pathological demand avoidance)

I am a mum of 2 (9 months and 2 years) I can safely say that i have met many people like your partner who want the best of the best but turns out baby isn't a fan of it so the money got wasted. For both my 2 we went for free or secondhand things to save money and to see what they prefer. My second didn't like the bouncy chair we had from our first so we got a little rocking one instead and he loved it. Just because they're twins doesn't mean they'll like the same things. You may even find that when one wants to be in the rocking chair the other wants tummy time. It might be worth having a conversation with hubby and ask him why he wants 2 of everything and all new. See what his reasoning is and go from there

It kills me when I see people post stuff like this because any mom who has more than 1 kid knows it’s just such a waste of money when you do this for your first kid…. They never need all of the crap that’s marketed to moms. But most of us of course make that mistake because we just think it’s what’s best but it really isn’t in the long run they don’t need all of that stuff and even twins likely won’t need 2 of everything except clothes imo 🤷🏽‍♀️ but maybe try to compromise with your husband and decide what stuff you will do new or pairs of and what things you think you can maybe do in a cheaper way? Then no one gets railroaded or feels they don’t have any input. It’s important you both feel like your part of this process especially for him since he’s not actually carrying the baby he just wants to know he’s doing all he can to make sure they have the best . At the very least you should feel blessed you have a man like that ❤️

Idk if this is your pda kicking in I think its reasonable to have different ideas of what babies need and what will get you guys through it is effective communication. Cuz communication will only get harder when you're sleep deprived and with 2 rage filled milkthirsty infants.

They're beautiful life-changing little humans. I dont wanna just make them sound like milk gremlins but the first few months are called the 4th trimester for a reason. As an older generation mama I'm just sharing things I wish I was told.

Girl if he can save that money and put it towards a cleaning person or a laundry service for your first 6 months to 12 months, or a mother's helper or babysitter to let you guys actually rest with newborn twins around... now THAT will be a gamechanger for everyone.

I urge you to try and put money aside or even call in the family and friends to provide respite or put on dinner for you guys in the first few months. Or to let you guys have dates and adult time.