Slept too hard

Like a day ago I put my baby doen for a nap and I was exhausted do I took a nap with her I woke up maybe 3 hrs later and she wasn’t there apparently my SIL came in and grabbed her and my FIL said that she had been crying for an hour I feel absolutely horrible that I did that I didn’t hear her at all I guess I was just that tired but I’m scared for it to happen again and idk how to prevent that It made me feel like a horrible mom and I’ve been terrified to sleep ever since especially with me and my fiance moving into a bew place soon and it will just be me and her at home when that happens

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I reckon you would have woken after a few minutes of crying. So I'd question if your baby was crying for a full hour.

If so, I am sure you were exhausted. Everyone needs that kind of help every now and again! As long as baby is in safe place you will be fine. My son cried for an hour in his bassinet because I was so exhausted when I woke up I thought he was siezing bc he cried so hard. I felt bad but I also understand that is mommies are exhausted and never see a full night sleep bc we are constantly woke up! He is happy as can be and still has a sparkle in his eye when he looks at me lol! I take it I am forgiven! It never happened again as after that experience I feel like I became more sensitive to his noises! It’s all a work in progress and just bc you have become a mom does not make you less human! Give yourself grace! If that were to happen again hopefully you partner will hear you lo and handle it or wake you up!

It sounds like your fiancé needs to step up and help you get more sleep, no one should ever be put in a position where they’re that exhausted whilst looking after a baby x

Genuinely why didn't your FIL wake you up if the baby was crying for a full hour? Isn't that strange

Why would you wait an hour when a child is crying? Like genuinely even with you in the room that’s so late to check on a crying baby… it’s happened to be too girl it’s fine you just get to a point of exhaustion and it happens

How reliable is that information? I doubt you would’ve slept with your baby screaming for an hour, I’d reckon it was a few minuets and he’s over exaggerating/trying to make you feel bad, they probably heard the baby crying, waited a minute to see if you’d get them and when you didn’t she got them and decided to act like a big hero

I think it’s fine to rely on your SIL if you’re THAT exhausted that you don’t wake up. Doesn’t make you a bad mum, YOU need rest too. But I doubt baby was crying for an hour! He’s definitely over exaggerating.

I find it hard to believe they listened to the baby crying for an hour before getting her. I’m not sure I’d believe her

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