Advice on Christmas!?

So my MIL has had it out for me since day one as I have a child from a previous relationship!!

I then got with my partner who I have been with for 8 years!!! We have had two beautiful boys, my MIL doesn’t want anything to do with my daughter (from the old relationship) so today she sends me a lovely paragraph saying that she’s cut all ties with me and all of my children which in kind has failed to have a relationship with my daughter (she’s 5) my son is 2 and my youngest is 2 months) my husband shouldn’t be married to me as she doesn’t like how I’ve had a baby out of a previous relationship!?

So this is where Christmas comes along! As it’s fast approaching, what do you do for Christmas, this is our first Christmas with our 3rd born, my partner wants to go over his mums house (which I’ve told him he can go just without me and the children) he’s said that whatever he’s decided will be his choice, so I’m coming on here what did you do for your Christmas when you officially hate your MIL

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I would just do as you said and let him go over there by himself and stay home with my kids. I just had a baby last year around Christmas time, so this year will be our first real Christmas as a family together. We have been no contact with his mother for going on 6 months and I don’t plan on going around for any special holidays with my daughter but I encourage him to go ahead by himself to all family events. She however doesn’t invite him and makes him feel like a black sheep in his own family which is evil behavior.. hence why my daughter and I do not go around her

You stay at home. Let your husband go by himself. As the kids grow up, let them know how dad rather spend time with grandma on Christmas than with them. Let them know grandma doesn’t want them. Also reassure you will always love them above anything else.

Have you guys gone to marriage counseling yet? If your husband has a pattern where he prioritizes his mom over you and the children. That is something you guys need to work on. Kids are very smart. They will pick up something doesn’t feel right. Dad and mom both need to be their safe people and prioritize them.

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