Struggling with gender..

She will be born and nothing else will matter. You’ll see you didn’t think it was possible to love someone so much.

Girls aren’t your stereotypical frilly dresses. She could be anything she wants, she can like the frilly things but also the more traditional “boy” things. I had a girl and oh my gosh is she the center of my entire world. Her laugh, smile, hitting her milestones. She’s my everything and I don’t think you’re bad for feeling gender disappointment but you should put it aside and love your daughter with all of your being because she deserves it.

I have girl, boy then girl. My oldest daughter is very much a classic girly girl. My son is very much influenced by his big sister and normally in some sort of princess dress up and showing us his dance shows. My youngest is just her own type of person haha. She’s happiest in her brother’s spider man tops (that absolutely swamp her) and she’s the most physical girl always wanting to run or kick a football about. Your daughter will be influenced by whatever you show her, if you only have her in frilly dresses then that’s all she’ll know but you just dress her and get her into whatever you want! My husband loves football and he’s spent a lot of time getting our oldest daughter into football with him, if you make it exciting for them then that’s what they’ll love. Take the pressure off having a girl and remember that there’s not as much pressure to fit into the typical girl/boy things now. I’m sure she’ll be perfect for you and when she’s in your arms everything will make more sense x

I had a lot of these same feelings when we found out ours was a girl. It got better as I started to imagine all the things I'd like to share with her that I wouldn't be able to with boys, all the life lessons I can teach her.

I don't worry as much about the state of the world, but I do plan to teach her independence, self-defense, and to never be afraid to speak her mind. I'll sleep a lot better knowing I have a daughter who can speak up for herself and take care of herself.

In my experience taking care of children, it’s the girls who are most interested in spending time with their mothers. You can take her to anything, doesn’t need to be dance classes. Girls can be anything. It’s boys who are more limited honestly. And ya know they say having a girl first is the better option because they will help you raise the rest of the kids. So when you do have a boy, you’ll have a helping hand, and appreciate her all the more cause boys are a handful.

Hey girl its normal to feel this way. I have chosen not to find out the gender till birth. My husband is convinced its a girl and I'm hoping for a boy but realistically as long as its healthy it doesnt matter. My husband has walked in on me bawling my eyes out. When he asks whats wrong I tell him I am absolutely terrified of raising any child in this world but more so if its a girl. I am also a tomboy and have no idea how to teach her to do makeup or buy cute girly outfits but thats where her auntie or sister will come into play. I will be 38 when this baby is born and its my first. We've struggled to make it. I just hope for a healthy baby. You got to remember your hormones are adding fuel to the fire. I think once you see and hold your baby girl that bond will be instant.