How do I tone down being over-friendly when making mum friends?

Can you give examples of what he means?

You are the way you are but you just need a friend to kind help when you don't know it's happening

Partner sounds like a gaslighter .. someone had to say it

Have you lost friendships from being this way or do they seem uncomfortable to you ? Is it just him that said it? I would say don't change as that would make you seem uncomfrtable/awkward and come across strange more so. Why should you change? You havent done anything wrong? You just need friends who get you and you click with

Don't! It's who you are and you'll soon find the people who appreciate you for being just the way you are 😊

Don’t water yourself down, for the sake of others. Be exactly who you are. If you have to change yourself to find friends, those are not your people. And your husband should not be asking you to hide who you really are. Your actions are not hurtful, or harmful. You sound just like me. Open, and honest. Maybe a little loud, but very kind and genuine. And willing to talk to anyone!!! You shouldn’t have to tone it down, or pretend to be someone you’re not. IMO!

I wouldn't worry about how you're coming across. Unless it's actually affecting how you make friends. You'll find people that are similar to you and accept you the way you are. By the time you get to the toddler stage you won't have time to talk to them in depth anyway as you'll be running after them instead 🤣

I think everyone is saying the same, don’t change who you are for anyone. I’m a nurse and I love it when my patients actually interact with me, makes my job so much easier. I bet you absolutely aren’t overly friendly with your midwives or other mums at all!