No sex drive
Is it common to completely lose your sex drive after having a baby? My baby is almost 3 months and I have absolutely no desire to have sex. In fact, I kind of dread it. I feel bad for my partner because he really wants it. He’s been really patient with me and respectful of my boundaries, but I just feel bad that I don’t want it right now. I still love him and everything, just don’t want to have sex at this time. I’m just so focused on my baby that sex feels like an inconvenience and just like one other thing I have to do for someone else. Anyone else feel the same?
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Take prenatals. And it takes a while for your hormones to regulate after birth. Is your baby a boy or girl?
Totally normal- especially so if breastfeeding
I didnt really feel like having sex until month 7. I still only barely want it, but the desire is coming back. I also stopped my prenatals around the same time.
I didn't get my sex drive back until 13/14 months post partum. A couple weeks after stopping breastfeeding.
Prolactin- the breastfeeding hormone that creates milk lowers your sex drive.
But also so does caring for an infant within the first year- your hyper focused on your babies survival.
This is a biological thing, nature wants us to care for the babies we have before we bring a new one into the world. Yes we do have sex for fun, but in the eyes of evolution, it has a specific purpose, so the drive is intentionally turned off for protection
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