TW potential abortion…
I am a mom of a lovely one year old baby, he’s my whole life, I love him so much. Since being pregnant with him, my relationship has been awful. We don’t have sex anymore (once every three months if that and it’s not even nice), there is no intimacy whatsoever. It got to the point where we are roommates. We don’t kiss, haven’t been sleeping in the same bed for a year (even though baby sleeps independently in his own room), we haven’t been on a date since I got pregnant. We argue all the time. I just don’t like the person he is, he’s making racist comments that make me uncomfortable and is overall very narrow minded.
8 weeks ago, we had sex once after months of abstinence… I got pregnant. I am now 8 weeks pregnant and I don’t know what to do. I have talked to him countless times about going to therapy but he hasn’t showed me even once that he cares to do that or fix our relationship at all. Yesterday was my birthday, I got an ugly pyjamas in a colour that I don’t even like… I know it’s not a big deal compared to all our other issues but I felt so lonely… I’ve been suffering with HG and feeling so crappy while taking care of our baby and the house and all I get is an ugly pyjamas… I wish he cared to fix things between us but unfortunately it seems very one sided…
Now I am at the point of thinking if I should get an abortion, go back to work and leave… It breaks my heart but I couldn’t possibly afford two babies while not working and all by myself… it’s either that or having to wait two more years until both babies can go to nursery. I am looking for an outside point of view here, what should I do?
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You need to do what is best for you and your mental health. Has he always been this way or did it start after baby was born? Women take on so much and men don't understand that. I don't want you to have any regrets if you choose the alternative route but if you are certain that you can't handle two children in the moment then do what is best for you. Does he help with your older child yall have already? If not then you will definitely be burnt out with two kids and no other outside help. Do you have family support? I hope you make the best decision for your family and yourself.
this is such a hard choice and only you know what's right, but this behaviour isn't ok. especially with increasingly racist comments, that sounds like someone being radicalised. maybe try a serious talk with him and see if he's receptive to turning things around, but if not, no one would judge you for getting an abortion so you can leave. it's just a collection of cells right now, the baby it could someday grow into doesn't exist yet. and when the time is right for that new little life to come into yours - if ever - they will
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I am a mom of a lovely one year old baby, he’s my whole life, I love him so much. Since being pregnant with him, my relationship has been awful. We don’t have sex anymore (once every three months if that and it’s not even nice), there is no intimacy whatsoever. It got to the point where we are roommates. We don’t kiss, haven’t been sleeping in the same bed for a year (even though baby sleeps independently in his own room), we haven’t been on a date since I got pregnant. We argue all the time. I just don’t like the person he is, he’s making racist comments that make me uncomfortable and is overall very narrow minded.
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Now I am at the point of thinking if I should get an abortion, go back to work and leave… It breaks my heart but I couldn’t possibly afford two babies while not working and all by myself… it’s either that or having to wait two more years until both babies can go to nursery. I am looking for an outside point of view here, what should I do?
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