Hey, I’m hoping for some advice/your experiences. I have a May 2023 boy and am considering applying to start him a year later into reception as is our right as summer born parents. He doesn’t have any significant needs, but I feel he could really benefit from the extra year to develop emotionally as well as build on his fine motor skills, confidence and physical stamina.
I’m wondering if anyone with May 2022 child delayed their child’s school entry and if you could share your experience as well as people’s experiences of sending them to school already this year.
Thank you!
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It really depends on a child. My summer born son was much more ready for reception at 4 years old than my autumn born son (even though he soon turned 5 after starting). You must do what feels right for you and your child 👍
Saying that, there's no harm in giving it a go and seeing how he gets on! Kids can sometimes surprise us 😊

We considered it but weren't happy with his nursery setting anyway so decided it would be better than another year of nursery. So depends what you would be doing instead. There is another 30hrs funding if you delay for a year but depends if you need more than that for work etc.
In the end although he is emotionally a bit young, he is really thriving with the academics and would've been voted in nursery with a lot of younger ones.

Check with the school admissions, as with some, if you delay they skip reception and go into year 1. They wouldn’t get as much support with the transition here as they would in reception.
As a mum of 2 summer babies, I have no regrets about sending them on time… they did school nursery too which helped. I think sometimes it’s the parents that aren’t ready as they will help with all the skills you’ve mentioned

Thanks so much for your thoughts and experiences!!! My nursery is supportive and will support the application and I’m lucky that I am in an area where 100% of applications to delay admission are accepted. I would definitely not send him straight to year 1, reception is too important. I feel in my gut that it would be beneficial to him to have an extra year play before entering formal education, but I suppose the one thing holding me back is that I wouldn’t want him to feel different…..

Just to add, schools are not allowed to put them straight in year 1, it's a misconception. I think my son would've felt different because he's already wearing size 6 clothes for height and taller than most of his reception peers so in the next class down he would have really stood out!
Hello, I’m just wondering how other mums would react to this.
I picked our son up from nursery today and was greeted by his key person who told me he had a great day and told me what he had been up to, I then spoke to the nursery manager very briefly, pretty much just small talk. After speaking to those two, probably about 20 minutes in total, I walked to another part of the nursery to get our sons shoes & bag and bumped into another nursery worker who we rarely get updates from and it was only then that I was informed that our son had fallen on his face and that’s why his faced was bruised (I had assumed the bruise was his cheek flushing due to him being out in the cold). I was a bit taken back that I found out so casually and just by chance so I basically just said I’m glad he was okay & that he took it well (she had mentioned he was only down for a short time before he was back up & playing).
My biggest issue with this is that if it wasn’t for me bumping into this other nursery worker, we wouldn’t have known that he had a fall. This is also the fourth time he’s had a mark left from an injury at nursery and I know these things happen, but surely we should be getting updated about what accidents he’s had during the day?
We don’t want to overreact but we do feel like saying something tomorrow at drop off as it’s just not sitting right with us.
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My daughter is almost 4 months old and every day is getting really hard, she went from being happy and smiling a lot to being grumpy and screaming for no reason. Her feeding is all over the place and she refuses to nap - will only sleep when she’s so tired she just drops off..
Trying to settle her is becoming so difficult no matter what I try, she just seems whingey all the time and I can’t keep her happy for long. All I want to do is help and I don’t know how.
Has this happened to anyone else? Is it just a phase? How long will this last? What can I do to help?
*shes not teething

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We are fortunate to be in a position where we have 3 schools my little girl could get into for reception. However, most of her nursery friends are going to one particular school. I liked this school, but just preferred another of our choices. I’m just worried about how upset she’ll be for not going with her friends. Has anyone been in a similar position?
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I have two children, one who is 3 and a half and one who is 6 months old. We just moved out of state, and before the move, I was working full-time while both kids were in daycare. I wanted to stay home with them and go to school, and I had this picture in my head of doing activities, teaching them things, and enjoying this time with a few hard days mixed in.
That has not been my reality.
My 3-year-old will not stop asking me for things. I go from one need to the next all day long, and I haven’t even had a chance to unpack. I barely have time to make myself food or get enough sleep. My 3-year-old has decided he doesn’t need naps anymore, and then he’ll intentionally wake up my 6-month-old just because he wants to. His behavior has been awful lately, and he doesn’t listen, even when it’s something important, like not running up and down the stairs. He questions everything, and I’ve gotten to the point where I’m yelling more than I want to.
I’m struggling. I’ve looked into daycare at least once a week because I’m so overwhelmed, but I genuinely want to make staying home work. I’m just so unhappy right now, and I feel like I’m failing at something I really wanted.
Does anyone have any advice? Has anyone been through something similar and found a way to make it work?
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When did everyone go back to work and what age did you send your little one to nursery and for how many days to begin with?

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Anyone else a stay at mom, but feel like you're also single when you're not? My partner thinks that because he works he doesn't have to do anything else. The man is a trash man, yet I have to take out the trash. I do all of the kid stuff like doctors, school, bath time ect. He thinks that his job is harder than mine and it's always an argument. We don't drive and my daughter's school is a mile away and it doesn't offer transportation. I walk 4miles mon-thurs to get her back and forth to school, plus my son walks with us and catches the bus half way there. That's only the jist of it. I am also doing all of the cleaning and cooking. Am I being dramatic or is this normal? Like just because he works and pays the bills, I literally do everything else. Please tell me I'm not alone
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