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Im 16 and im STRUGGLING to find a lover. Ive got apps to meet guys and seems like everyone i meet has absolutely no human decency. They all start caring and once I trust them they tell me all these things about my looks and how lucky my past partners where and how they want to see more... I feel so used and so alone.. i dont know how to make friends irl with my mental health and 16 mo old..

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Following I’m 25 struggling with same thing

Girl you will struggle a lifetime. Invest in YOURSELF. Educate, work out, focus on your career. Do not waste your life on finding a parasite to suit your needs.

“ A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle “

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I agree with Taya!! Don't worry about finding a man right now. With the way you are talking the reason why you are attracting these kind of men is because you are not in a good state for the man you want anyway. Focus on your mental health, taking care of your kid, and better yourself for YOU!! Once you do that, your dream man will come along!! 😉 It happened to me!! Once I started living my life and living life, I found my husband. He made my dream come true by making me a mom. ☺️

Finding friends at 16 was so difficult but trust me PLEASE apps to meet men are so damaging and dangerous to your self esteem, even as adults!! Been there done that 😭

You do not need a lover rn. You got your whole life ahead of you! And I hate to say it but in your situation, the worst kind of men will flock to you unfortunately. So it’s better to focus on yourself and get yourself in a secure place emotionally.

The best thing you can do is find comfort and happiness with yourself. I had a hard ass but amazing boss when I was 19. Him and I were watching this couple argue, and the guy had no backbone and let the woman walk all over him. He said “this guy’s pathetic. People like him think they need somebody. In reality, he needs to learn to love himself first. You’re no good to anyone if you can’t learn how to enjoy just loving who you are.” Something along those lines. It rang in my ears.

I would always walk for hours and sit at a coffee shop and draw. My other time was 80 hour work weeks and talking on the phone with my grandma. That was one of the largest growths for myself I’ve ever experienced. I loved just wandering around alone (knowing I had support in my background). I’m 30 now for reference.

Take your time. Genuinely, when you aren’t looking, love stumbles right in front of you.

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Ready to give up on this app

I’ve been on here for a couple weeks now, haven’t made a single friend. I’ve talked to a couple other moms but either been ghosted or don’t get passed a how are you. Messaged several ads to join group chats, no one responds? Did this app fall off or what?

If you’re wanting to make actual friends and not ghost, comment below!

Dealing with infidelity (rant kinda)

The past few days have been very weird for me. My partner of almost 10 years came to me and told me that in the first 3 years of our relationship (before we had our son) he slept with three different women, two of which I also know one of them being his ex where he had sex with her twice. Before he told me about this, there was another instance where he kissed another woman that, again, we both knew but he told me about that almost right away and this was last year.

When he told me this I stayed quiet and honestly I just felt numb and for the past few days we've just spoken about it. I haven't gotten angry. I haven't shouted at him or screamed at him. We've almost acted as if everything is normal and it's kind of driving me insane a little bit. I haven't been able to cry about this every time I think about it, but I think it's mostly because I just can't imagine it. Our whole relationship he has told me that I've been the only one he has had sex with and it was a lie.

I refuse to talk to any of my friends or family about this because I don't want them to know what's going on and I don't want to hear their advice. I also don't want anyone looking at him any differently because of this. I don't know if it's just my brain not letting me process it all at once because it's just too much to take or if I've just given up and emotionally surrendered.

We have one son together who is 3. I am the main one who looks after him and does everything and I don't want to have a breakdown in front of him if it comes to a point where it all just comes out at once.

How does a person deal with this? What do I do? I'm so numb it's weird

First-time SAHMs

How are we going about our days? Especially with a partner who has to work long hours :( I love bonding with bubba, but after some time during the day it gets too much and there isn’t really much to do. Any ideas on how to make the most of the day with a little baby are welcomed

I need a virtual bestie effing friend

Judgement free, venting partner, facetime like all the damn time, plans to eventually meet/ family trips, play Roblox together,420 friendly, girls girl and a girl who’s gonna ride and die and talk shit with me about life. If this is you send me your damn number I been waiting

i think i want a divorce..

i think i want a divorce but i have no job no education no car and i live with my MIL and have a 2 month old baby and we have a joint bank account. when i told my husband im considering divorce he flipped out and said i can go but i cant take the baby. i cant leave my baby! i said we can co parent and he said no divorce isnt an option… i fear ive messed up my life big time and im scared. i think it would be easy to leave if i didnt have my baby. what on earth should i do? has anyone else been through this??

Work

What do people do for work with kids and trying to work around school ect I’m due to go back to work night shift 7pm-7am my 3 year old daughter goes to nursery 9-3:15 my 7 month old will be home with me my husband works day shift 5am-4pm so he’ll have kids for bedtime and my mil will stay the night for the couple of hours I’m not home in the morning and husband is at work but how tf am I gonna cope during the day with my son nursery is too expensive to put him in I’m trying to find other night shift jobs but can’t find a thing I’m dreading it I go back in two weeks