Am I wrong for being upset that my husband wants to leave me and our newborn?
My husband recently found out his mom’s visa to visit us from another country was denied. I suggested we save money and plan a trip to visit her after the baby is born and I’ve recovered.
A couple of hours later, he TOLD me (didn’t ask or discuss it with me) that he plans to use his paternity leave to travel to see her for 1–2 months, starting 2–4 weeks after our baby is born.
I’m devastated because instead of being home supporting me through postpartum and bonding with our newborn, he plans to be in another country. I would completely understand waiting until the baby is a couple of months old, but I feel blindsided and disregarded.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? What would you do in my position? I genuinely want honest opinions. Looking for some advice or suggestions
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No you are not wrong for feeling that way during the newborn phase especially that early on he should be there to support you and the baby. You and your husband are one his mother is not in the immediate family that’s you your husband and the little baby you are bringing into the world he shouldn’t be putting his mother before the family that’s he’s creating you guys come first not the other way around. What he should do is wait till you recover and you all feel comfortable with traveling together
Woahhhh. I’d raise hell. I’m so sorry you’re going through this girl. You’re absolutely NOT in the wrong. You and your baby should be his #1 priority now. I agree with you completely
I’d feel the same way! How long has it been since he last saw his mom? One or two months sounds like a really long time visiting her. Maybe a week or two at most.
In any case, when a baby arrives, we need so much support. Between the lack of sleep, the frustration, and all the hormonal changes, postpartum can be really overwhelming and even depressing, especially when you’re going through it alone. I wouldn’t be happy about that either, especially because postpartum is a time when we need all the help and support we can get. What a blessing that he has such a long paternity leave, though! ❤️
Companies should have some kind of process to ensure that paternity is used to actually care for the baby and not to have a vacation. The audacity men have is unlimited
I definitely would not be ok with this unless she's dying
You should give him an ultimatum. As sh*tty as it sounds. He clearly needs the wake up call and has forgotten that he is a big boy now. I understand thats his mom but he needs to get his priorities straight and you dont have to tolerate it.
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My husband recently found out his mom’s visa to visit us from another country was denied. I suggested we save money and plan a trip to visit her after the baby is born and I’ve recovered.
A couple of hours later, he TOLD me (didn’t ask or discuss it with me) that he plans to use his paternity leave to travel to see her for 1–2 months, starting 2–4 weeks after our baby is born.
I’m devastated because instead of being home supporting me through postpartum and bonding with our newborn, he plans to be in another country. I would completely understand waiting until the baby is a couple of months old, but I feel blindsided and disregarded.
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