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I’m really struggling with ppd but my boyfriend is also really struggling with his mental health, he’s self harming, drinking more and I feel my relationship is falling apart because I’m constantly feeling guilty for feeling depressed and struggling around him. The other week we were speaking and he told me he couldn’t promise me he wouldn’t kill himself and that’s now a weight I carry around, I feel like every time I go to sleep he hurts himself therefore making me feel awful about sleeping, resulting in me constantly being exhausted because I never get a good nights sleep out of fear of him doing something. It’s not his fault I know but I’m really struggling, I just want things to be ok again. I don’t want to lose him, I love him so so much it hurts. I can’t talk to my mum about it because usually I talk to her if I’m struggling but if I talk to her about him she then comes off really angry towards him and I understand she cares about me and just wants to protect me but I hate feeling like she hates him because her opinion matters so much to me. I don’t really know what to do anymore.
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Sending hugs. All three of you need to be safe, whatever that looks like with the resources available to you.
I hope you are working with your OB or primary doctor to help with the PPD. The right medications can be literal life savers.
I hope you are able to create a safe environment for you, baby and that your bf can get the help he needs. He doesn’t sound stable right now, and you cannot reason or healthily communicate with someone who is going through what you described.
Hugs mama 🫂
finding a therapist can be an invaluable tool to have a place to unpack this kind of stuff too.
I know that my weekly sessions really help sort my brain out when I’ve got some heavy stuff going on.
Men can have PPD too make sure next time you go in that yall talk about options for him too bc it doesnt always happen but men can get it too atleast thats what my care team told me
This sounds extremely difficult for you and him.
I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling. I will keep you in my prayers.
* Is he seeking support? Is he willing to if you help found him professional help?
* What about you? Are you talking to your doctor about your ppd?
Besides your mum do you and your bf have any other support system? What about his family? Close friend?
His situation sounds like a lot for you alone to deal with when you as lsi have yourself and baby to take care of.
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Trigger warning? Hard topics?
I’m really struggling with ppd but my boyfriend is also really struggling with his mental health, he’s self harming, drinking more and I feel my relationship is falling apart because I’m constantly feeling guilty for feeling depressed and struggling around him. The other week we were speaking and he told me he couldn’t promise me he wouldn’t kill himself and that’s now a weight I carry around, I feel like every time I go to sleep he hurts himself therefore making me feel awful about sleeping, resulting in me constantly being exhausted because I never get a good nights sleep out of fear of him doing something. It’s not his fault I know but I’m really struggling, I just want things to be ok again. I don’t want to lose him, I love him so so much it hurts. I can’t talk to my mum about it because usually I talk to her if I’m struggling but if I talk to her about him she then comes off really angry towards him and I understand she cares about me and just wants to protect me but I hate feeling like she hates him because her opinion matters so much to me. I don’t really know what to do anymore.
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