How the fuck do I get my spark back?
I’m 2 months postpartum and lately I’ve just been feeling like absolute crap. My boyfriend really decided to try talking to a coworker and I found out by going through his phone lmfaooo 😭 this bitch really thought something was gonna happen when the girl wasn’t even entertaining him like that. But honestly we’ve been fighting so much lately that I keep asking myself what truly makes me happy anymore. I genuinely gave myself a whole year to figure shit out and try to make this work. I let myself get controlled in ways I never would’ve allowed before because I was pregnant and wanted my family to work. But mannn I used to be a whole boss bitch. I knew my worth, I stood on business and I did not give a fuck about losing anybody who didn’t bring me peace. Then I met this dumb fuck and somehow along the way I started losing pieces of myself trying to make something work that’s been draining me more than it’s been making me happy. And now I’m sitting here 2 months postpartum wondering when the hell I stopped putting myself first because one thing about me is I know who the fuck I am and I know I deserve better than this 😭💀
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Honestly it sounds like to get your spark back you leave the man who tried to get with his coworker..
Speaking from personal experience, breaking up with the person who is bringing you down is the healthiest form of self care. It took me three years to finally leave. That was after so many attempted breakups, two arrests, one leading to an assault charge, and many many broken nights. I had ppd for nearly 5 years and when I finally broke ties with my ex, my life changed for the better. Not all at once, but within a few months I saw major changes in myself. The people we’re with influence us and we can either surround ourselves with positive influence or with negative influence. Once I cut ties and cleared my inner circle of negative influence, my life felt so much lighter. I feel at peace. It took saying goodbye, standing my ground, and a shit ton of therapy.
You know your worth, you’re asking the questions, you have the desire, now you just have to take action. One step at a time. Sending strength and love.💪❤️
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