Does anyone delay kids bedtimes when grandparents are over?

My in laws come over every Friday evening and so my husband doesn’t want to ruin their time with his parents so bedtime isn’t until 9/9.30pm. This is every week. Would you be ok with this? We have an almost 4 year old, 2.5 year old and 8 month old so it’s a tough juggle.

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I rarely budge on bed time in general. My daughter really thrives in routine. If it’s a once in a while thing, it’s no big deal but every week is a no for me. Especially with three. HOWEVER, if it works for your family, don’t question it.

I've always been super flexible about bedtime with my kids on weekends. If we're visiting friends or visa versa, they end up staying up a bit late. Been doing that since they were 4 or 5 and they still have a strict routine during the week. It's what works for us, and we haven't had any problems with sleep.

Is he helping with bedtime/ wake ups or morning of they all wake up at their normal time? We do sometimes but if it's school the next day I try not to but my kids have fun when we have visitors. I let them. We don't have them as often as you so tho

Not anymore!!
We had a similar situation bedtime now is NO later than 8pm for our 3 year old. With grandparents our son wouldn’t get to bed until between 9-10 and it was not working. We just let them know that the late days don’t work because he needed his sleep (we were very much over the meltdowns due to him being SO overtired).

*Also, if our son goes to bed late he is overtired and falling asleep takes over an hour. Not ideal for 3 year old. And it does not matter what time he goes to bed he l wakes up at the same exact time every morning, so my husband and I both agreed we did not want to sacrifice his sleep anymore. Not fun for anyone.

If we have family or friends over, we still begin bedtime routine. One of us just steps away.

Absolutely 💯 no especially every weekend!
Praps if it was one off and didnt see them often!

I budge on naps, but not bedtime.

Not with kids so young. After you have to deal with the consequences. My in laws visit earlier so their visit never mess with our kids bedtime schedules. (We never have issues if it's about 30 minuts or something if our kids handle it well. Bit more than that there's no way)

Honestly yeah it’s fine, it’s the weekend live a little

All the time for anyone for holidays an weekends.
If my kid falls asleep early on them they still hangout an put to bed for me

I'm flexible when it's weekend but if I saw it was having an adverse effect on the kids I would ask the grandparents if earlier visits were possible

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