Does anyone ever feel like they're missing out on freedom?
Sometimes I feel like I'm missing out when I see other women my age on holidays, able to do things whenever they feel like it, or even building their careers. I have no regrets cos every moment with my baby is precious, but does anyone else feel like this?
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I had my baby when I was 24, for context
Yes I feel you. I had my first when I was 28. Have my second now at 31. I had to have more time doing things and wasn’t ready for all this. But it happen now. Can still do some things gonna work through it. How olds your little one??
I’m thinking about it as living life on hard mode. We CAN do all the same things, it’ll just look different. Yes it’ll be more expensive and no I probably won’t go to the club haha but I can’t wait to travel and go on frivolous adventures with my LO 🫶🏼
& just because you aren’t staying out late or going on holiday now doesn’t mean you won’t ever have the opportunity!
I’m only 20 she hasn’t been born yet but I find myself feeling like im growing up too fast everyone’s partying and living the life at college . I’m unemployed not in college and on maternity leave pushing through health issues for this baby that wasnt even planned . I love her already and that won’t change but sometimes I feel trapped in the idea that this will be the rest of my life , being a mom. And I won’t ever be free from it . Now I do have BPD so that has a lot to do with this feeling. Many woman may not feel this same way? But it just feels like my freedom is gone .
I had my first when I was 20. My second at 24. I had a wild time as a teen, but I feel like I missed out on having a social life. Now im a housewife with no one to talk to but a toddler and a baby.(my husband sleeps as soon as he gets home from work most days) Sometimes it weighs on me that I probably missed out on having any real friendships or any form of social life
You can absolutely do all of those things with a baby. It just looks slightly different. Travel with kids is definitely more difficult than traveling solo but it's so worth it! My 11 year old has been to 20 countries, my 2 year old has been to 5 and my 3 month old is about her get her first out of country experience in 3 months. We've also both built careers while parenting- we had our oldest at 18. It's possible to have all the things you want in life, you just have to buckle down and put in the work ❤️
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Does anyone ever feel like they're missing out on freedom?
Sometimes I feel like I'm missing out when I see other women my age on holidays, able to do things whenever they feel like it, or even building their careers. I have no regrets cos every moment with my baby is precious, but does anyone else feel like this?
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The mental load
Hey! Is anyone else finding they are drowning in the mental load at the moment?
The mental load of everything that comes with a toddler, plus Christmas and present preparation, plus work, plus everything to do with the house, plus our own social life, plus just anything you need for yourself 😅
I am very fortunate I have very supportive relationships around me, but if I’m asked one more time what we need from the shops when there is a shared shopping list or what kind of bread to get, I’ll scream 😅
Anyone found a way to quieten the noise down?😂
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"Your brain is lying to you"
But is it really though? Im doing research on how to deal with severe body dysmorphic disorder and the thing that is constantly repeated is that my brain is lying to me. That other people aren't focusing on the things that I see, but aren't they at some point if its blatantly obvious?
Big teeth, yellow teeth, bald patches on hair, weight, what youre wearing, bad makeup, etc,. Isn't natural human nature to notice the obvious and think inward even if we dont initially mean to?
Im constantly hyperfixating on how fucking ugly I am and how other people probably perceive me, even if its true or not. If the scale came into play id probably be a 4 on a good day. All those things I listed above are attributes of mine I hate. My hair has been thinning severely for a while and now im getting bald spots and widening part and theres been nothing i can do to stop it only adding to how fugly I am.
I see how fucking ugly my face is and question is it the BDD and my brain "lying" to me or is just fucking fact? Im able recognize when my brain is lying to me about being "fat" but if I cant recognize the same for my face maybe that means im just fugly as shit. Soon enough I wont be able to hide the balding and thinning and it'll make it impossible to go out in public. I fucking hate myself and I have a hard time believing my brain is "lying to me".
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