Identity crisis

I’m having a bit of an identity crisis, I’ve just got back to work and I’m loving some time to myself again but also feeling a bit meh/sad without my boy. I’m interested in getting stuck into work projects but also feeling very insecure and tired. I’m not sure if I wanna do my job anymore but also can’t mentally be a full time mum. Will this feeling pass and is it normal when starting back at work?

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I think is is really normal! It’s hard adjusting when you’ve been mum for a long time and getting back into it! Honestly this is why I’ve started working freelance and earning enough to put my little one in nursery 2 days a week but only working a couple of hours so I have abit more balance! Xx

This was me when I first went back. You do get used to it especially as they get older xx

I'd tell yourself that youre not back at work in the normal sense but youre in a transition/adjustment period. Means you won't feel strange if you dont feel the same as you did at work before baby but you know its a period of adjustment and feeling things out. You'll find a good balance of enjoying work/time alone and being back with your baby x

Thank you all, this is helpful. I’m feeling so mixed all the time it really is an adjustment mentally

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It’s been a battle 😩

I thought things would getter when my kid started elementary school. But between getting the kids ready for school/daycare, drop off, pick up, cooking, working etc. and a husband who is unable to help because of 2 hr commute & non-flexible work schedules…. motherhood has never felt this lonely 😢 aaaaah….. 🤯

When y’all gonna stop fucking playing 🙄🤦🏽‍♀️

All I see are post talm bout they want a friend or a bestie but do y’all really?? Like, who really tryna put in the effort to build a friendship? I’m tired of shit being one sided, dry ass responses, getting ghosted, etc.

Where are the genuine ladies at who actually wanna make connections?

Sex timeline

Anyone elses husband like dead set on having a schedule for sex? For example my husband doesn't like to go more than 3 days without sex. So like every three days he almost expects sex from me, which is honestly frustrating. Sometimes I'm just not in the mood and then he'll say well then I'll ask again tomorrow and so on. Most of the time it feels like I have a lot of pressure to put out.

What happens to intimacy, affection and sex when parenting takes over?

Am I the only one experiencing this? Im almost 19 months post partum!! My husband I don’t really have sex. We both tired, both feel unmotivated, he prefers being on his computer at night and I am in bed with my child who is still co sleeping. He only comes to bed at 2 am. Most nights I’m asleep. I get why I don’t feel like I want to have sex, but why doesn’t he?

Should I be worried?

Any Other moms/sahms Looking for Genuine Mom Friends? 🥹

Hey moms! 💗 I’m new here & looking to connect with other moms! I’m a SAHM with a 4 & 6 year old & honestly, being a stay-at-home mom can get so isolating & lonely sometimes. 🥹 I don’t have much of a social life outside of being a mom & would love to make some genuine mom friends to talk to, laugh with, hang out with & build real friendships! If you’re in the same boat, let’s connect! 🫶🏽

Ghosted by mom friends because I’m a single mom? 😢😔

Anonymous because I’m honestly embarrassed to share this. I was recently ghosted by moms I thought I was becoming friends with. They ended up going out with their husbands and leaving me out, and I was told it was because I’m a single mom.

I’m already struggling with motherhood and trying to build friendships, so that honestly hurt. I understand that people have their own lives and relationships, but single moms deserve friendships and inclusion too. Has anyone else experienced this? 🥺