What happens to intimacy, affection and sex when parenting takes over?
Am I the only one experiencing this? Im almost 19 months post partum!! My husband I don’t really have sex. We both tired, both feel unmotivated, he prefers being on his computer at night and I am in bed with my child who is still co sleeping. He only comes to bed at 2 am. Most nights I’m asleep. I get why I don’t feel like I want to have sex, but why doesn’t he?
Should I be worried?
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Could be because of the Co sleeping, my partner wants to but it becomes difficult with the co sleeping for us personally
I am in exactly the same boat right now! 19 months postpartum same routine pretty much every night. I put kids to bed make dinner wait for husband to come home we eat together on the sofa with the TV on. He sits on his laptop until we’re ready to go to bed. It’s like it’s Groundhog Day.
Oof Groundhog Day here too. Sounds like that’s my life. We also fight a lot more. I just feel there’s resentment in areas of our life
Right! And then my toddler needs me more than she needs her dad. So there’s that. With cosleeping im stuck in bed with her. Her bedtime js my bedtime for the most part, or if she wakes up I have to run to shush her back to sleep. I also work from home and take care of my toddler
Why don’t you talk to him the gentlest way? Like hey I’ve noticed this lately and i know it’s something many couples go through after a baby with the sleep deprivation and huge responsibility of looking after a baby… I’ve also noticed that I’m still super attracted to you but that we don’t get enough time together… why don’t we try putting the baby at my sisters place or in bed after a big solids meal with 3-5 oz formula and cuddle up?
But don’t say why don’t we have sex because it will sound like you’re accusing him and it pushes him further away
That’s my two cents
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What happens to intimacy, affection and sex when parenting takes over?
Am I the only one experiencing this? Im almost 19 months post partum!! My husband I don’t really have sex. We both tired, both feel unmotivated, he prefers being on his computer at night and I am in bed with my child who is still co sleeping. He only comes to bed at 2 am. Most nights I’m asleep. I get why I don’t feel like I want to have sex, but why doesn’t he?
Should I be worried?
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When y’all gonna stop fucking playing 🙄🤦🏽♀️
All I see are post talm bout they want a friend or a bestie but do y’all really?? Like, who really tryna put in the effort to build a friendship? I’m tired of shit being one sided, dry ass responses, getting ghosted, etc.
Where are the genuine ladies at who actually wanna make connections?
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