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i was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to deal with your partners other child mums, he told her we are having a baby and she has been horrible sent me a nasty message and sent him some too, he called her to talk about it as she slammed the door in his face when we dropped of his son, she was crying because it upset her. i know to try and ignore it but it’s just getting to me as she has never liked me even though i’ve been nothing but nice and i just want some advice.

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You’d probably do best just keeping your distance. Clearly she’s got a lot that she needs to work through and it’s not fair for her to ruin your pregnancy. I’d leave it to your partner to deal with x

i do i don’t speak to her as when i did she wasn’t very nice and all i did was try to show her i was a nice person who cared for her son

I went through the same but she never texted me only slagged me off to my partner.. i just ignore her completely so she can move on its hard for us and her everyone deals with things in their own ways but that doesnt mean you have to talk to her

I know it’s easier said than done but ignoring is the best thing to do as reacting to her will be what she wants
I know it’s not the easiest of things but honestly I would just leave her to it

Block her number she doesn’t need to have your number and I’d get your partner to tell her she doesn’t need to contact you anymore. and he needs to be telling her her messages aren’t needed and if she can’t be civil and kind she can keep her opinions to herself and only communicate about SC x

i ignored her message and i will continue to as i know she is just jealous as my ss was a one night stand baby

i am to the best of my ability it’s very upsetting as i’m so emotional at 13 weeks pregnant i don’t message her back i just wish she’d understand i care about her little boy and not a horrible person

it’s lovely that you have been trying to show her that unfortunately I don’t think she will see it until she gets over whatever she needs to get over and that’s not on you, that’s on her. You keep doing what your doing with your SS and enjoy your pregnancy otherwise your going to let her ruin everything which isn’t fair on you or your partner x

yeah i know that’s the plan as we wanted this to happen, we’re very excited and now i’m getting over the nausea it’s slightly more enjoyable, i think it’s also partly because they weren’t together when she got pregnant and then he only dated for a couple months so she’s jealous i’m getting pregnancy in a “normal” way, we’re it’s wanted and all that if that makes sense

good! Enjoy every moment of it because it goes so quick And makes perfect sense, just leave her too it. Protect your peace x

Block her number, let your partner drop stepchild off, don’t go or don’t get out the car. Ignore her, she’s most likely jealous and the best thing you can give her back is silence and living a happy life with your partner.
You don’t need the stress when pregnant, we didn’t even tell my husband’s ex, we told my stepson and he told her.

You won't be able to do anything to change her jealousy, no matter how well you treat her son. Don't waste your energy. She will get over it in time. I've been with my husband for 10 years, and the majority of them my SS mum hated me for absolutely no reason. Once she finally settled down and met someone she is happy with, things started to get easier. Now we are civil and she congratulated us on the pregnancy etc. If I had been pregnant a few years back, I'm sure it would have kicked off. Hopefully, there is light at the end of the tunnel for you, but it might not happen for quite a long time. Just focus on your baby and keep your relationship with your partner strong. As long as he never lets his son down, there is nothing she can hold against you both.

Block her number. She doesn’t need to be able to contact you.
Protect your peace.

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