Nightmare holiday

Hi girlies.. We've just travelled to my hometown in Hungary without daddy - thinking it will give both of us a bit of a break, he can chill and I can get lots of lovely help from my family. BOY was it wishful thinking.. 😢

My LO got ill 3 days before the travel with a high fever but no other symptoms, was getting better but then developed a rash on the way here and it got so much worse the next day that we had to go hospital to get her checked out (she's OK now). You can imagine how the flight was. ☠️☠ Last time we were home (she was 6 months) she was loving it, now she would not leave me for a minute!! It's been the worst 4 days I had in a very long time, she's constantly screaming, crying, fussing, throwing angry tantrums, and just won't settle with anyone but me.... She's usually really good at independent play at home so I can get lots done, now she just won't play or explore, only keeps climbing me and wanting me. I literally can't even go for a wee without a full on meltdown. She's normally a social butterfly and loves going out, now everything is a nightmare and no one can hold her. Her sleep is super broken too, so I'm absolutely shattered and not sure what to do anymore as no one is able to look after her alone. My mom is a kindergarten teacher and even she ran out of ideas now. I thought it will be so nice for family to see her as we don't get the chance to see each other often but this is an absolute nightmare, I've just been crying all night I'm so tired. 😓

I guess it's the illness, the travelling, new environment, the 'new' people, no daddy, etc. but oh my gosh has anyone had this?! Does this go away or did I sign myself up for 14 days in hell?! 😅 Send help! 🙏

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No advice as I haven’t been in this situation, but I just wanted to say I hope it improves for you! I’m sure the illness hasn’t helped, bless her! Have you tried going out for an hour or so and leaving a trusted and willing family member to it? There will probably be a lot of tears but it might help if she can work through that and see she can do without you for a bit? I understand if you don’t want to try that though! X

It will be because she is ill and in unfamiliar surroundings & people. If she had not have been ill she’d most likely have been fine. She may still not be feeling herself, once she does she may feel more open to the new surroundings and people.

You are her safety blanket, so she will only want you. Have you got or can you get a sling? Will make her feel secure and you can get more done inc going for a wee

Ah thanks girls! 🥰 Today has been a success as we had to pop out with my dad so she was only with mum for about an hour and she said baba was a dream until I got home, where I was welcomed with a meltdown lol...😅 So there should be some hope!

We travelled to Hungary to visit my partner’s family and my little boy was exactly the same , we went for 3 weeks (with a 5 day holiday break in Croatia between) he wasn’t poorly (was on the last day) but he did the same , left the room he would scream etc. in the end he got used to it (maybe 4 days) wasn’t completely back to himself but I was able to leave him with someone else for a short amount of time. (My partners mum is also a teacher and was good with him, but he just weren’t having it) it’s definitely the travel and different environment xx

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