Mom guilt

What are some ways yall keep yourself from feeling so guilty 😭 my baby wants me alot of the time. Chooses me over daddy all the time. Shes been even more clingy because shes getting over a cold but i need some space 🥹 she cries and fussies if shes not touching me. (Keep in mind i do all the diapers, feedings, baths, all that) i just feel like i dont get much time at all to myself. Poor baby doesnt feel good and i just want a few minutes to eat something but i feel bad if i let her cry not feeling good and eat 😭 i get i shouldnt feel bad i need to eat and take care of myself too , just want some ideas how yall dont break your self up over things 🥹

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I try to redirect. I've literally taken the shirt off my back and given it to my baby to calm him down. My older son is autistic and I can give him my shirt and tell him to hold it so I dont get it dirty while I'm eating, and he cuddles it to calm down. **I am not walking around shirtless, I always have a tank top on under my shirts** or I distract with a toy or I have them eat with me. I sometimes put baby is his high chair and give him a toy so hes with me but not touching me. (I've also been able to get baby to try new foods this way too) it is a hard phase to get thru espicially when they are sick. But take a deep breath and it's normal and a part of their growth. It just means you've established a great relationship with them.

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Letting her cry for a little bit won’t hurt her. I always try and think “do I remember when my mom let me cry it out?” No! I remember nothing as a baby and I still love her

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My 8 week old has his first set of injections tomorrow and I’m abit nervous. Does anyone have any advice for after the jabs? I know they get a temp after so have got some calpol to give just before hand. Should I put him to bed in less clothing to make sure he doesn’t get too hot? Any tips from your experience with first set of immunisations? Am I worrying more than I need to? 😅

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Any moms of neurodivergent toddlers who could help me out? My son is 13 months old. I know that is technically too early for a diagnosis, but I have a gut feeling that he is on the autism spectrum.

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