Breast feeding and meal times

I am a bit lost of when to BF my daughter. We were doing it when she woke up, at each nap, bedtime and once in the night.

Then meal times 1.5 - 2 hours before nap/bed.

However, she’s not always got the best appetite for solids. So not sure if we should move it around.

Feel like there’s so much guidance on feeding until 6 months and now feel like I have no idea.

I am also not sure when I should be giving cows milk when she turns one (in six weeks)?!

Has anyone found a routine which works well (appreciate every baby is different).

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We’re on a similar schedule to you atm with regards to BF and then offering solids. I have found her breakfast can be quite hit and miss regardless of the time since the milk feed.
When she hits 11 months, I think I’ll start offering solids first before milk to see how she gets on. I’ll Also try her with the odd sippy cup of oat milk to get that transition started

My boys BF and I offer first thing in the morning, before or after naps and bedtime and then he has 1 night feed. He has always been a snacker when it comes to BF though. I always aim for atleast an 1/1¼ hours between BF and solids but looking to start offering solids first soon. The amount they eat day to day will fluctuate but what I've been doing is if he doesn't eat much at a meal time I offer BM slightly sooner. In regards to cows milk, I think I'm going to look at replacing the middle of the day feeds & offer it alongside meals/snacks, although when talking to my health visitor it can be milk or other dairy sources but they need to be having 2 or 3 servings, but you can offer that through food and just continue breastfeeding if that's what you want to do.

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