Toddlers with ASD

How does your little one interact/play with other toddlers?

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Mine doesn’t acknowledge other kids 😩

My son is 16 and was only diagnosed this year. However, when he was a toddler, it was always parallel play. Still is actually. He played on his own with other kids playing next to him but never with them.

Even now as a teenager when he has friends over, they play on their phones or video games next to each other but they don't really talk.

My son is 4 and we’ve came along way!! He’s bad play therapy and that helped a lot. Also getting him in school was such a big help. I’ve noticed such a change. He greets his friends and his teachers now. He went from non verbal too communicating

@Robyn that's normal teenager behaviour, me and mine done the same as teenagers 😅

@Veronica oh I know lol that's just how he's always been lol

I feel I should have seen signs of his ASD when he never crawled or went backwards for speaking but I let Dr's convince me I was crazy. I'm just saying the parallel play never went away

My 5 yr old has high functionin autism and he plays well wit others

@Robyn there was less knowledge about it when he was showing signs, its only really been since recent years that they've done more studies, I think 2014 was the last time it got updated for most medical practices, not many of them go on the courses for it unless they want to

Parallel play. Only if it suits his interests

My son is two and has just started to recognize others. He does parallel play but right now the only one he plays with is his brother

My 3 year old just doesn't 🥹

I took my LO to open play time today at a place near our house and he noticed the other kids. He doesn’t usually interact but today He stared at some, touched one of the little kids a couple times (kind of like to make sure he was real haha) and he walked up to some of them. I was scared to take him to a little place like that but I think I’m going to start taking him more often.

My 6 yr old loves playing with other kids she gets so excited but she can't speak like have a conversation so as soon as the kids know that they let her play by her taking them by their hand to go with her down the slides lol

My son will tolerate being around other children and will ask them to play..but then gets really stressed out when they play?! Lol My son has a particular way of how he wants to play and doesn't appreciate others interjecting themselves in to that play!

in our community

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

Partner no longer wants baby #2

Before our son was born we originally both wanted minimum 2 kids but we were hoping for 3-4. My partner found the birth traumatic to watch and also struggled a lot with the newborn/baby stage. He no longer wants to have any more children and it’s completely breaking my heart. I need another baby. We’ve spoken about it a lot and the options. He said he wasn’t COMPLETELY closed off to it so I asked him to try and work through his feelings and reconsider his decision. He eventually said he definitely doesn’t want another. I know that I will always want one and my feelings will never change. Do we have to break up or does anyone know anything else I can do to help change his mind? Has anyone else’s partner said this and then changed their mind? I don’t want to break up because I adore him and our life together and I’d hate to split up our family for “selfish” reasons and make my son miss out on having both of us together but I just don’t know what to do

Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Jealous of my husband

I’m so jealous of him and it’s making me resentful. We have a ten week old and I’m jealous that he is at work all day. I’m jealous he can leave for lunch and actually eat an uninterrupted lunch. Take a phone call uninterrupted. Chat with a friend he runs in to uninterrupted. Even go to the bathroom when he wants uninterrupted. He comes home from work when he wants. He’s not on a set schedule. Some days are late some are early. It depends on when he’s done. I’m jealous he can come home at 10pm and shower, eat and go right to bed uninterrupted because I already have the baby asleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything house wise or baby wise because I’ve done it all. Meanwhile I’m covered in puke and crap and smell like rotten milk. When he is home he is VERY active and helpful. So it’s not that. I’m just jealous his world hasn’t changed and mine has I guess. This isn’t something he’s doing wrong so I’m not sure how to get past this. I wish I could keep him home all day because that’s how helpful he is, but I understand he obv needs to work.

NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?