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Women with small hips have wider vaginas than girls with wide hips??

I overheard a conversation between my fiancé and his best friend who is married with kids. For reference I came home early from work to surprise my fiancé while the baby was in daycare as I knew he also gets home early on Thursdays. His friend was saying how his wife hasn’t been the same down there since their second child (his wife and I had our babies one month apart) and to that comment my husband replied that everything for us is pretty much the same if not better. His friend then stated that women with hips (and butt) are tighter because they have some “meat” pushing down on their walls to help them squeeze a dick and saying how he needs to get a woman who is “thick”. His wife is a petite woman, short and skinny but very beautiful, I’m a bit taller and more statuesque as you can tell from this paragraph. I’m a little uncomfortable with this conversation and wish that my husband would have said more to defend me when another man is speaking under my clothes in such a manner but I mostly feel bad for his wife and the fact that she has such an ignorant and insensitive husband. In the past 6yrs that I have known their family I would’ve never thought I would have heard something so vulgar come out of his mouth. He also told my fiancé that he’s lucky that I’m in my early twenties and that tall girls have nice tight vaginas you just have to be long enough to reach their Gspot. I want to talk to my man but what do I even say without him feeling like I was invading his privacy ?? I also want to tell his wife that her husband has made comments about cheating on her for someone who is tight/thicker. Advice please????

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This is the most ignorant thing I’ve everheard.

But it’s wildly inappropriate and disrespectful for that conversation to have taken place in the context that it did.

I wouldn’t contact the wife. It’s simply not your place and it was just talk. If he’s sleeping with a woman in your living room then maybe.
I don’t think your husband should be upset that you overheard a conversation. It happened and what was said wasn’t okay and that’s what is important.

Also I want everyone to know that I think this notion is absolutely absurd. Every woman is different and I don’t believe that height, nor hip size makes a woman “loose” or tight. There is RESEARCH that proves so and that the only thing that can change the vagina is aging and childbirth.

😳😱😭 omg I don’t even know what to say because that’s a lot to over hear….I would probably talk to your husband first about what you heard before thinking about telling the other guys wife what you heard to get your husbands thoughts on if he was actually implying he has real intent to look to cheat on her because that could be so bad to get yourself involved in that without knowing what’s really happening. I would be so offended as well if my husband allowed that conversation if another man was speaking on me that way :/ I feel so hurt for his wife he would speak that away about her to someone else like that. Sheesh.

I would tell my husband what I heard but I would never tell the woman about the husband because it could easily be all talk. Your relationship with her could end if you tell her because she may feel embarrassed.

What a gross conversation

I’m not married or have a partner, but if it was me, I’d tell my husband for sure.

The guy is body shaming his wife. This is not ok and can cause a lot of psychological damage. Maybe he felt it was ok talking to your husband about it because they’re friends but at the end of the day, they’re are certain things you do not say or share with anyone particularly when it‘s about your partners body.

The most valuable thing a woman can give to a man is allowing him to insert his penis inside her vagina, why? Because it’s the most vulnerable part of the woman’s body. That localised area that leads into the womb, is where a woman’s intuition comes from. It’s where life is created.
This POS has completely devalued, degraded, disrespected and humiliated his wife and now wishes to take another woman purely for the sake of pleasure! His wife deserves to know the truth about her husbands mentality towards her, but speak to your husband first because this guy is a negative influence on your man.

Girl I would stay out of it.

Whether there’s any accuracy to that or not is irrelevant, it’s just a disgusting and really low class topic to even be discussing. I would not look at my husband the same way if I overheard that, like this is the type of conversations you and your friends feel comfortable having ?

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