ABA therapy or part time Pre K?

I’m so undecided whether to put my toddler in ABA therapy full time when he turns 3 years old, or part time Pre K? I know that pre K will prepare him to be around a lot of children, but I also feel like the ABA therapy will help him improve more.. I’m so stuck on which one to go with.? What are your thoughts mamas ?

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You can't do both at the same time? How many hours of ABA therapy is your child approved for? Is your child in ABA already? Are you in early intervention for your child? How does your child's potential preschool/school district approach special education (special education classroom vs. inclusive environment)?
When my son was 3 and starting Pre-K he was also starting in home ABA around the same time. We were coordinating IEP evaluations and ABA evaulations around the same time to get him started. He would have special ed Pre-K in the morning and ABA in the afternoon. He was approved for 15 hours a week at the time so school did not clash with ABA. Pre-K was good for getting him used to going to school and being around kids, but ABA was also good for behavior issues he had at the time.
Since your child is not 3 yet I would contact your school district and inquire about steps for IEP evaluation/placement. In the meantime, if you haven't already, set up ABA therapy for your child.

My son is receiving ABA therapy at school, his school has adopted the ABA format in the school and there has been an amazing improvement in his behavior and focus. I also administer ABA therapy at home with him as part of our daily life. I became certified as a behavioral technician and administer 20 hours of therapy at home. It’s had a huge impact on his development and has also helped with our family life as well.

thank you! I was thinking of doing part time pre K also, but then again I think it’s best for full time ABA for him

wow that is awesome! I’m thinking of doing full time ABA on him, instead of doing pre K in the morning and then ABA at evening time. I just don’t want to put a lot on him.

I’m in the same boat right now trying to decide if we should do ABA or HBTS? My son is 3 and a half and he has been receiving speech therapy and social/emotional support through the school department as a walk in service since he turned 3. I was thinking about making sure he goes to preschool for at least half a day too, but I’m kinda of changing my mind now. My son also needs speech therapy and is currently doing that along with feeding therapy so I don’t want to overwhelm him. For socialization we are doing social groups through an autism group and we attend social groups and events that are offered through the public library. For example they offer story time, music time, craft time, Lego time through the library that we attend often. Also, I try to teach him preschool materials at home so he isn’t missing out. See how your child does in the routine and if he is struggling with both choose one but if he’s thriving great.

Also, check your state laws to find out what is the age requirement to be enrolled in school or homeschool. For example in our state it’s 6 years old, however if you enrolled your child for kindergarten at 5 years old you can’t just take them out they have to stay there. It’s just something to think about.

I’m in the same boat trying to figure out which is best 😭

girl this decision is so hard I just want to make sure I make the right choice

thank you so much for your advice! This makes me feel a little better on what I’m trying to decide 💜

thank you for your experience on this and ur advice on it as well!

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