I don't want to be a mom anymore

I dont want to be a mom anymore for a few reasons. One reason is because i don't think I'm emotionally prepared I've been getting angry and I've never seen myself like his before. Another reason is because m husband isn't the father I thought he'd be. He's not there for our child he complains about doing the bare minimum such as diaper changes, bath time, and feedings.ive communicated how stressful it is doing everything everyday especially when he is home from work nothing changes. I don't want to have my child grow up like this. I feel like my child would be better off somewhere else but I'm also afraid that something will happen to him or I won't ever see him again. The thoughts of him being raised by someone else makes me sad but I don't think I'm in the right space for him. I don't think I should keep him but I'm scared to give him up I don't know wha to do.

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Motherhood is not easy!!!! It’s so new and so many learning curves! But that baby didn’t ask to be here. He depends on you even if your partner sucks as a parent at the moment maybe communication on what can be done and about how it’s making you resent being a mom would go a long way. We cant just give our babies away because it’s getting hard. Do you have a supper system? Family? Friends? If you decide to go through an adoption agency, it will change your life and babies life forever you just have to accept that if that’s what you decide. I hope things change for the better! 💜

Honestly I felt like this I felt like I was doing everything wrong and I couldn’t do it anymore I missed the old me I had severe postpartum depression and anxiety where it felt like I couldn’t do anything and that there was so much of things to do that I couldn’t do and that taking care of another life at that small that’s so dependent on me when I couldn’t mentally take care of myself it’s hard and scary and it makes you feel like you’re such a bad person but you’re not and as your partner not helping you, I’m sorry to say it might not be a good situation for you. It might be best for you to go to Family because if he can’t help you to take care of you so you can take care of your son then that’s not the one babes And that child is dependent on you I think what would be good is if you go to your doctor and talk to your doctor about how you are feeling because there is such thing as postpartum psychosis

The fact that you even think about giving away your child because you wish him a better family already speaks for the fact that you are a great mother. You will learn how to calm your anger (I’ve been there! I did it!), your partner will learn to be a good father or you’ll find a better partner someday… these are changeable. Maybe you should consult with someone about postpartum depression?

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I've finally done it

I have finally done it. I have finally become the trope, the stereotype.

I have become bitter, resentful, and very overwhelmed and overloaded. I am very unhappy and hit burnout. And I snapped at my husband last night. I work full-time, and work has been very busy so im working late a lot. Im also in grad school. I also have a toddler that has become VERY clingy with me. My husband works shorter days but commutes, so he usually gets home after me by an hour or more. When he gets home, he usually heads to the restroom for at least 30 mins when he gets home. And now my toddler doesnt want anything to do with him. So im doing all the toddler duties until bed. I dont get 5 mins to myself. Not for almost 2 years. I finally hit my wall. I have also, somehow, become my MILs medical ride service and she somehow has an appt every week, it seems?! Shes not sick!! My husband was complaining that he needs to change routine to fit in a workout sometimes, and I lost it. I have been BEGGING for 5 mins to myself for months. I have been telling him how im not good, im going to burn out for months. And between his attitude and him complaining (which really got me b/c he blames me for not being able to work out?! Saying I need help when he gets home so he just cant workout now) I just lost it completely. I told him how unfair my life has become and I have the entire mental and emotional load and it is just not fair. He got mad at me and said "hes trying" when hes literally not trying at all. What do I do?? No one is taking the load from me! And im done and dont know what to do now.
I do not like this version of me.

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

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And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

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Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

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