How often do you see your babies grandparents?

Seems narcissistic!

We see my parents once a week or so (my mum has my daughter once a week for us though) and we visit my mother in law every weekend.

It is your family so you choose what's best.

I’m about to go back to work, I expect we’ll see each set of grandparents no more than once a month

Do what’s best for you. I see in laws once a week they take my LG for a few hours on a Tuesday for me to get housework and rest if I need it. It’s tiring work. They will have her 2 days when I go back to work. So will see them for a bit then too. But it’s what is ok for you and your family not their convenience x

My MIL is here almost everyday
My son is nearly 10mths old now and she's stopped by to see him nearly everyday since birth.

He gets so excited when he sees her and she keeps him occupied while I do some things around the house.

You set your boundaries, they need to understand that. They have a title to your child; they are not entitled to your child.

Twice a year on both sides

I think it's quite selfish of them to think they have any rights to your newborn baby that you haven't even fully bonded with yet. They need to rectify their feelings on their own. It's not your job to pacify them. They need to get over it. Your baby, your family, your rules.

My mum weekly my dad once a month only because of work commitments and my partners parents once every couple of years only as they are in another country so costs to much to travel but we send pics and do video calls. You have to do what works best for your situation.

I visit my mum every Sunday coz she cooks a big pot of something and all the siblings and their partners and kids gather for family catch-up. My MIL lives w us so sees the kids every day. So weekly

My daughter sees my mom and step dad every day multiple times (we live in the same apartment building) she sees my husband's parents once a week (they live an hour away) and she sees my dad and step mom like 3 times a year.

My dad lives with us so there is that. My mother and step mother vary. If we have family things I decide to go to more often. My partners father has come to see the baby once. He lives 4 hours away. My partners mother lives in Colorado. We took him there at 3 months ish and she just came for his birthday a couple weeks ago.

This is YOUR family now. And you guys get to choose how that schedule looks. They are over stepping your boundaries and showing that they don't respect your values and wishes. You are not in the wrong here.

My parents and inlaws rarely see my daughter. My MIL has seen her the most probably once a month or every other. My mother has seen my daughter a total of 4 times, my FIL has met my daughter once and my father has never met her. I wish my parents wanted to be involved but that's just not in the cards

However you shouldn't be shamed and forced by your child's grandparents for anything. You're not selfish you just want some alone time. If they can't accept that then it's time for a break from them.

They seem like typical boomers

Thanks for the reassurance guys. We’re in no way trying to cut them out, only set a boundary that they can’t speak to us that way especially not around a boundary we set around our child or us. If we hadn’t had tried to reschedule a hangout for when it was more convenient I would understand their response a bit more, but we did do that it just wasn’t what they wanted Ann therefore somehow the end of the world. 2 weeks postpartum after a traumatic birth and having family drama. Wish it didn’t have to be like this especially since everyone else in our family and friend group completely respect what we ask of them when it comes to timeframes.

Oh wow that's a lot.


When my husband and I had our LO it didn't go according to plan and we needed a lot of help too. My mom came down and spent 3 weeks with ud and his mom was over everyday. I was back in the hospital for a week 48 hour after discharge due to complications with preclamsia.

Luckily after my mom left, my MIL work got super busy so she started only coming on weekends.

When we moved states my MIL came to live with us because ahe couldn't be away (that put a strain on our relationship). Luckily she hated the area we moved too and moved about an hour half away to an area she loves and we now see her once a month.

My parents live quite far so we see them a couple times a year.

The distance helps. I am sure if we lived closer to my MIL we would see her a least once a week if not every other. (I'd prefer every other).

So it wasn’t unrealistic when you needed them, but since you don’t need them anymore now they want too much? That doesn’t seem fair. Their comments to you were uncalled for though. My mom comes every day and my in law comes about once per week. But we do not restrict any of the grandparents. They have been a huge help both during pregnancy and after.

I agree with ! They dropped everything to help you and you will need help again! Once a fortnight living close by is a bit tight

We see them once a month or so! I agree with what others have said any you absolutely being able to set the boundaries you need to and have time to bond as a family. One thing that seems to help both sets of grandparents is that we had gotten them skylight frames a couple holidays ago and send pretty much daily photo/video updates

Omg I would go crazy to have visitors that often 🤯 grandparents visit a few times a year at most

If they were nice to you, you might actually *want* to see them every day. If they double down on their garbage opinions, you may want to see them never. You wouldn't accept that logic from a babysitter, teacher, sports coach or youth pastor, don't let the label grandparent fool you. Anyone that thinks they know better than you (and your spouse) about how to raise your kid, shouldn't spend a lot of time with your kid. And definitely shouldn't be watching them unsupervised. You have my permission to be less polite to them about this issue, haha. It's a kindness to teach them sooner than later...

My baby is only 3 days old and she was a NICU baby and our mother in law has been here helping. We desperately needed the help our girl came early and our house is under construction.

What's wrong with those people. You are not responsible of if they get depressed or not. Wtf.
It's totally normal not to want them over anytime they want.
I don't have any schedule set to see my in laws, nor anyone. Sometimes I see them twice a week and sometimes not in a month. We have things to do and they also have a life out of us. We have a great relationship because no one pressure no one. I m very sorry they are pressuring you in this very delicate postpartum moment.