Potty training

So my little one has just turned 3 and after numerous attempts we appear to now be heading in the right direction with potty training, when he doesn't have pants on he will take himself off to the toilet for a wee and barely any accidents, but how do you transition to wear pants/underwear? He goes to nursery 3 times a week but he is speech delayed so can't really say he needs a wee (I know but because of his body language and getting upset holding it in) and I don't know how to get to the next step when he can't communicate very well that he does need to go? Just imagining the washing because people outside our house don't know hes trying to tell them he needs a wee 🙈

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We kept my lo commando for about 4 weeks then just started putting knickers on but it wasn't a big deal she was fine. Could you teach him to sign toilet or something as a way to tell them he needs to go? Fwiw my lo has been potty training 4 months and hasn't had accidents at home much since the start but every day is a gamble with how many accidents she will have had at nursery! Best she has managed is 2 days in a row no accidents. Worst day was 7 outfits to wash! Usually 2-3. Some might be from playing outside though.

We did commando for a couple of weeks, then trousers without pants, and then pants with trousers. Seemed to work for us as when we went straight to pants he thought he had a nappy back on I think so that in between stage of trousers not being too tight around him worked.

As for communication, how about a board with pictures on of the toilet or flash cards to point/show people x

I did 3 days commando and straight to pants once they were ready.

You could maybe teach him to sign a command for potty if you think that would be easier?

Sorry if I'm being a bit dense but hes my first, he is due back in nursery on Tuesday so obviously commando at home doesn't work going to nursery but then it'll be 3 days of no accidents at home if were successful today and tomorrow, would I try pants and no underwear at home tomorrow to see if he can figure out a way to tell me he needs to go? Or do I stick with commando tomorrow and then put pants on for nursery and hope for the best x

Yeah when I say commando I just mean no underwear, so after the first day or two with nothing on the bottom at home we sent her to nursery with trousers but no underwear on for 4 weeks. I would try trousers at home tomorrow yes.

Okay thank you for your help 😊

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