The kitchen not clean

Guys I’ve got a 6 month old and she’s lately been not napping as long so I haven’t been great maintaining the chores. But ngl I didn’t wash Fridays dishes and left them to rot in the sink while and I was out the whole of yesterday. Then had an early morning visit to the in laws and didn’t have the chance to wash up. So we only got home this evening to a smelly kitchen 🥴 of raw meat smell because we made burgers 🤤 which btw tasted amazing. But hubby was not happy at all I got the most dirtiest look ever lol I know he likes the house clean but come on!! It was the first time I was not bothered to clean and I got a good telling off. He doesn’t seem to understand that it’s hard with a baby plus I started my period. What do I do!

Is having a baby not a good excuse for having a day off washing up. I’m starting feel pressured having my shit together now!

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You’ve got a lifetime ahead of kids disrupting your normal routines so it’s not going to be the last time the dishes get left.

Instead of giving you a dirty look he should have washed up himself!

so true! He did clean it all up and his giving me the cold shoulder because I’ve ruined his Sunday 🫠

Oh love, don’t beat yourself up!!
Firstly, get the husband involved if he’s got opinions…
I give my little one to her dad for her last wake window after he finishes work and do any chores then. It’s an unspoken rule that he has his bonding time and I do what I haven’t had chance to do.
Also, if she’s happy in a carrier or a bouncer, bring her with you!
My 8 month old sits on the kitchen counter while I do washing up. In the walker when I am hoovering (she follows me) and she just likes to be involved!
Finally, if you are having a real overwhelmed day and you have external support, then ask for an hour or so of baby free time to do jobs you can’t get to.

Please don’t feel bad!! Babies are the priority, chores can wait!! You’re doing amazing for getting out for the day x

You should have a serious conversation about how you BOTH had a baby and now the rest of the house work has to be shared… might take a while but you’re not a maid xx

aw thank you so much, yes definitely will give it ago. To be honest im usually okay with it but it’s the first time I haven’t. But I will give him time with the baby while I clean!!

I can’t lie, my little one loves watching the washing machine go round so I’ll stick that on so I can do the dishes or wipe the sides down

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We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

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