MIL comment out of order??

We hosted a pizza/BBQ night this evening at our house with my husbands parents and 2 teenage sons (15 & 13) and we also have a 2 year old of our own, and I'm currently 7.5 months pregnant with our second. I usually get on well with MIL (FIL is a different story) but she literally thinks the sun shines out of my 2 step sons backsides! Throughout the BBQ I was looking after my daughter whose very clingy and doing the simple things like getting plates, sauces etc whole hubby did the cooking. Towards the end of the evening someone, who I'm assuming was one of my step sons but nobody owned up, tipped tomato sauce all over the outside tiles. I went inside roughly when this happened to put my baby to bed and came down 45 minutes later and they were all still outside, so I went out and MIL said to me 'there is all sauce over the floor that needs cleaning up or it'll go funny', I said back sorry I'm busy ATM and went back inside as I was fuming. MIL has mobility issues so I don't expect her to clean it, but am I in the wrong to think it's rude they've all sat there for 45 minutes not bothering the clean the mess, when my teenage stepsons or FIL could have easily cleaned it up and then ask a 7.5 month pregnant lady to get on the floor and clean it?! Hubby said I'm being petty and MIL meant it as a friendly reminder, but why does it fall on me because I'm the women? Would you be pissed off or just let the comment go?

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i’d be absolutely fuming. tomato sauce wouldn’t just be on the tiles i can say that much.

I’d be upset too, honestly. Shouldn’t be your responsibility to clean it up. Your husband or stepsons should have cleaned it ASAP, & a comment could’ve been made to one of them instead of you.

Friendly reminder to clean up a mess you didn't make lol? That's not being petty at all. Your husband or step kids should've cleaned it up since it's their house too. I'd leave them with the mess, go inside & get ready for bed

I’d definitely be upset too! There are plenty of people there that are capable of cleaning it up. Can you take the water hose to it(and possibly them?) 🫣😂

Whoever spilt it should clean it up!!

Whats so irritating is if you came down and saw it and started cleaning it in a huff, the narrative would be “the moody pregnant lady” . Just can’t win with inlaws sometimes but your husband or one of the boys should have absolutely cleaned it up even before you got there

Whoever makes the mess should clean it. Even if they did it in their own home. It’s always fair that way. If I spill something myself I don’t ask my partner to clean it, I just do it. I’d do the same at his parents house or my own parents house asap because it’s disrespectful. I’m assuming if it was the kids they’ve not been raised to clean up after themselves? I would have a word with MIL and explain you didn’t expect her to but it’s unfair to you as you’re pregnant and also for someone else to make a mess and not take responsibility and clean it up. If FIL could have done it and chose to ignore it he’s disrespectful and it’s quite appalling

I'd have told her where the cleaning stuff is tbh. She might not be mobile enough but she could instruct one of the boys to do it. Also, where was your husband at this point? Because I'd be mad at him in all honesty, that he hadn't got it sorted while you was sorting the baby!

Glad it's not just me!! From what I can gather 'apparently' nobody knows who did it, that's why nobody cleaned it up. This was exactly my point, even if MIL has bad knees and hubby was busy cooking, the 2 boys and FIL are fully mobile and chose to sit on their asses doing nothing instead of cleaning it up. So frustrating!

I don’t think it matters who did it, whether it was me or not, I’d be cleaning it anyway so the heavily pregnant woman doesn’t need to think about it 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’d be pissed and why couldn’t hubby clean it up?!!!

If you weren't there and nobody knows who did it, then why are you the one that has to clean it up?
Whoever was supervising is the one who should clean it up if the culprit is apparently unknown.

Whoever noticed the spill should clean it up. If MIL can't because of mobility issues, she should've told the boys or FIL to do it. Not sure what the relationship is like with the step sons but I would've said to MIL "yes, it does need to be cleaned" and then called one of the boys to clean it up. No way a pregnant lady should be doing it, sorry.

No one knows who did it, so no one cleaned it? Wtf? I guess it's just staying there until "no one" owns up then 🙄 I would 100% be having words with the husband. And I'm pretty confident that was one of the boys, so definitely husbands responsibility to deal with.

Any updates? Who cleaned it up? I’m invested now 🤣

Sorry for the late reply! Hubby cleaned it up the next morning to try and be peace maker

Your husband is a huge problem, he clearly enables mil and step sons.

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