Would you let your 6 Y/O go to the park unsupervised with other children?

He should have told you first that she would be babysitting for him. I would be upset about being at the park without parents too, but did she eat lunch at 11? Or dinner at 7? Pizza between 12-6 isn’t bad.

Dad is a complete idiot and if you haven’t already, I’d be going down the legal route for him to have supervised access because WTF??

My daughter will be 6 in a couple of months, there ain’t no way in hell I would ever let her go to the park unsupervised with no adults!! If the 2 adults were at home that’s even worse! Girl I would have called CPS on her because you got time for dick, but not to watch your 7 kids? 🥴

In my opinion a 14/15 year old is of age to be a responsible babysitter. So, again my opinion, your child was not unsupervised at the park. If the park is a safe place or not is a different conversation

I feel like you are being controlling. Clearly he is a fit parent seeing as your child goes to his house. If he was an unfit parent I hope you'd have gone to a lawyer for full custody already

Taking a step back how would you feel if he questioned every single parenting decision you've made under your roof? Do you tell him every time you hire a babysitter for your child? Do you have him meet every person you date that meets your child? Do you ask him his thoughts on every parenting decision made in your house? If the answer to any of these questions is no then you're being a controlling hypocrite

I feel like you have a difference of opinion when it comes to parenting but both have the same goal of raising a safe, healthy, and happy child. Why should he have to parent your way or not at all?

let’s be clear, on a few things. 1. The neighborhood is not safe enough to allow that. 2. The fitness of his parenting was never in question. The question was would you let your 6 year old go to the park unsupervised. To me, I’m not allowing my child to go anywhere with a 14/15 year old, babysit at home sure but to go out and watch 8 other kids ? Absolutely not. 3. He and I have been broken up a year and prior we were together 8 years, we raised our child together, he’s well aware of my parenting and I of his, this is out of the norm. Which is why it was questioned. I’ve never had to question him before and he’s never had to question me, because I don’t leave my kids with anyone other than family, never had a babysitter. Didn’t even do daycare for my kiddos because we were blessed enough to have the familial support. 4. Never said he had to parent my way or not at all. Reading is fundamental. Thank you for your input

didn’t say he had to parent your way. Just that he is deemed fit to making parenting decisions on his own because of a history of parenting not being questionable. YOU didnt read.

I understand you’re frustrated but I think some of your points are unreasonable. You made this post asking for feedback. You got it.

that was what I told him as well, he did it behind my back we had planned on meeting that morning for me to grab her then he backtracked and was like well you can get her after I get off. The day prior she spent the day at his aunts house because his grandma was in town, so I assumed that’s where she was going to be and he knew that. She at pizza at 12. And from 12 until 6 ate nothing else. Not really a big deal but my kid loves her belly so I just found it hard to believe she only ate once the entire day. And pizza was all she was offered. And you have 8 kids in the house ?? I come from a big family my mom has 6 kids I’m the oldest and the youngest is 7. They eat all damn day lol

Clarity, detail, and a consistent story is also fundamental. Without these newly added details I hope you can understand where my original feedback came from.

I was clear the safety of the park was another conversation. I do not know your area so I am not fit to comment on that.

Clearly you don't want an opinion that is controversial in comparison to yours so I will bow out. Best of luck with your situation. I hope everything works out and that your child is happy, healthy, and safe ❤️

We had a guy way to close to home lure a 5 year old at the park away with candy (we all have heard those tales but this ligit happened this week near our town) lured her away sa her and she got away and told adults quickly. Luckily, they found him quick (he is a repeat offender). Apparently, the girl lives close to the park, and parents frequently let the kids go alone. Nope, not mine. Not ever. You just never know.

I know exactly why those two adults sent those kids to the park unsupervised. Men are such dogs. Ugh. 🙄 The fact that he would put your child in harms way to get some is just despicable. Of course he's not going to tell you about it. He knows it's wrong and doesn't want to get called on it. Document and address this in your next custody hearing.

I’m not that concerned. Overall he’s a great dad. I just wanted to know what other parents thought about what’s Ana appropriate age to let your kid go to the park on their own. because he thinks that because of how I grew up I have an issue with and that I’m looking for a reason to not like the girl. I could care less what the man does or who’s he is with. My concern was her safety, I know my kid. She’s a wild child she runs off, and she’s very curious. so to me another child especially one that’s unfamiliar with her is not an appropriate choice of supervision. He’s barely familiar with the kids ! He’s been with her 6 months. And furthermore he KNOWS the kind of parent I am. She lets her kids go to the park with her 15 year old cool, they’re all old enough for that, my 6 year old is NOT. And then 15, baby you not watching those kids, you’re on your phone, you’re talking to your friends, etc. let’s be forreal.

sorry let’s be clear, Dad was at work. He left our kid with his now gf. The two adults home were the Girlfriend and her mother.

the two adults were his girlfriend and her mom….

I told her dad that as well! Same thing happened while I was at the park with my mom and siblings and my two. My mom took the kids to go to the bathroom, she knocked on the girls room door to make sure it was vacant, no one answered when she opened the door, there was a man inside waiting! And he was just as shocked to see her as she was to see him! He was like oh I’m sorry I didn’t hear anyone knock… first of all why were you on the girls room and the men’s room door was wide open and vacant. And you damn sure heard the knock he was waiting for a little girl! Crazy thing is I’d seen him at the park numerous times walking the track! There are real creeps out there. He left and went to go sit in his car. We left and called the police

I read, In fact I read it twice. she did ask why should he have to parent my way or not at all. Insinuating that I’m forcing him to parent one way, which im not. I’m expressing my concern and asking for feedback on what other parents would do. The feedback was given and I was questioned. I answered said questions. I am frustrated but with him. Not with her. What do you think is being unreasonable about ?

I understand, I gave you the clarity you needed based on what you said. The whole point of the post is for feedback, I am not expecting everyone to agree with me , never did. We can respectfully agree to disagree on the fact that a 14/15 is adequate supervision at a park. everyone raises their kids differently, and that’s okay! Thanks for the input

That's better, but still totally unacceptable and I'm sorry this is happening with your child. 😕

I would be bothered by my child going to the park with only the supervision of other children. A 15 year old is old enough to watch kids but not 7 of them at once.

Whether the park or safe or not ,the child shouldn’t be in a park without an adult … 15 year old can supervise at home but not outside especially when they are many of them at the same location….discuss this with him ,let him take her to the park when he can

Nope

I'd be pi&sed, have you ever met this women before or the kids left in charge? How would he react if it was the other way round?

I would have lost my ish and I’m pretty calm . Anything that could cause my child to be kidnapped and harmed by being not supervised I would never be able to recover mentally he’s really not seeing the whole picture. There is missing children for a reason.

I met her once briefly we only said hello and he didn’t introduce her as his gf or anything at the time so I didn’t know who she was tbh. And when he told me after the fact I told him that wasn’t right, he should have properly introduced her to me, I felt like it was a lil disrespectful to her as his new girlfriend. I thought it was a friend or one of his models. And never met her kids.

same. I’m pretty cool and rational. I have two baby dads and I’m the easiest going mom for them both to deal with according to them. however with a slew of recent events that we’ve been dealing with, I’m a lil more protective over my kids. But being unsupervised is never something I’ve played about. My other daughter’s dad agreed with me, and said he would have a conversation with him regarding it but I don’t think it’s really 100% appropriate for him to do so I just wanted a man’s perspective. It probably wasn’t even appropriate for me to ask him for his opinion but hey 🤷🏾‍♀️

I definitely think he should have introduced her properly to you before anything, even before she met your daughter in my opinion

I agree. Especially if you want me to be comfortable with her being left in her care. Then to say I don’t trust him if I don’t trust her is a stretch. I don’t know her to trust her, my trust lies and ends with you. It doesn’t go beyond that just because of a relationship .

i definitely understand that hopefully he can get through to him 🙏🏽 it only takes 1 second you can’t take back.