Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

I’m 12 weeks pregnant and losing my mind

My 8 year old is amazing don’t get me wrong, but he’s been having sooo much attitude. I know why though too because I haven’t had the same amount of energy to go and do whatever he wants to do or that I need to do.

This weekend didn’t go the way I wanted it to go. I had to clean my brothers house because yesterday was the last day of the lease, he had to leave to New Mexico because of a snow storm, it took 8 hours, and I just wanted to take my son to elevate because I have been promising him that I would. Well yesterday because of the cleaning and it just being me, I was there way later than I anticipated and didn’t end up getting home until midnight because I live an hour and a half away from my brothers old house. I know you’re all asking “Why did you have to do that?” It’s because I co-signed on his lease so if he left it like crap, I would have been held liable monetarily for whatever the rental company would have charged.

I’m exhausted, I’m tired, I want to sleep, I want to be done with this pregnancy strictly because I’m exhausted so that I can do everything I want and need to do as a mom. I work full time, I parent my son full time and my bf helps but I still feel like there is so much I’m falling behind on.

Don’t get me wrong I am soooo excited to have a second child, and I am soooo excited to have the opportunity to be a stay at home mom. I’m just used to being super woman and doing everything and I just don’t have any energy to do anything. I want to quit my job, I want to stay home already, I want to just travel with my son, I want to do all these things but right now everything feels impossible.

Anyways… I know this was a lot and all over the place. I just needed to vent and I guess advice on how to manage this? I hope it will get better ❤️‍🩹

in our community

Is this clever or cruel?

My husband and i were talking and with social media and the internet in general being a terrifying dumpster fire, we are trying to figure out the best way to keep our son safe while still teaching him how to safely be online and moderation.

We landed on the idea of giving him the 90's kid treatment. A computer in the living room for us to keep an eye on what hes doing online, and once we feel hes mature enough to hang with friends without adult supervision he gets a flip phone. When we feel he is responsible enough and he earns and saves up the money for the physical phone, case, and screen cover, then we will be happy to take him to get a smart phone.

I thought this was air tight, but now my brother says its cruel to give a kid a flip phone, and besides he can just use his friends phones at school.

My husband and i remember a time before the internet, and we remember having complete access to something no one understood yet. We saw unspeakable things and are always battling with the urge to put the phone and social media down. I dont want that for my son, especially with his brain so vulnerable still.

If your partners parent passes away

And you and that parent didn't get along are you still go to the funeral?

Not my situation!

Partner no longer wants baby #2

Before our son was born we originally both wanted minimum 2 kids but we were hoping for 3-4. My partner found the birth traumatic to watch and also struggled a lot with the newborn/baby stage. He no longer wants to have any more children and it’s completely breaking my heart. I need another baby. We’ve spoken about it a lot and the options. He said he wasn’t COMPLETELY closed off to it so I asked him to try and work through his feelings and reconsider his decision. He eventually said he definitely doesn’t want another. I know that I will always want one and my feelings will never change. Do we have to break up or does anyone know anything else I can do to help change his mind? Has anyone else’s partner said this and then changed their mind? I don’t want to break up because I adore him and our life together and I’d hate to split up our family for “selfish” reasons and make my son miss out on having both of us together but I just don’t know what to do

Nursery funding

My child turned 9 months last week. I applied for government funded hours nearly 2 months ago and so well within the required timeframe for the April term, however upon receiving my first invoice without the funding applied and having questioned this, I have now been informed that the stretched funding doesn’t start until 4th May.

Has anyone else been told it won’t start until May?

The government site states it should start from April 1st, and so I intentionally set my nursery start and return to work as the start of April for that reason, knowing that I wouldn’t be able to afford the nursery on my sole income without the funding

Jealous of my husband

I’m so jealous of him and it’s making me resentful. We have a ten week old and I’m jealous that he is at work all day. I’m jealous he can leave for lunch and actually eat an uninterrupted lunch. Take a phone call uninterrupted. Chat with a friend he runs in to uninterrupted. Even go to the bathroom when he wants uninterrupted. He comes home from work when he wants. He’s not on a set schedule. Some days are late some are early. It depends on when he’s done. I’m jealous he can come home at 10pm and shower, eat and go right to bed uninterrupted because I already have the baby asleep. He doesn’t have to worry about anything house wise or baby wise because I’ve done it all. Meanwhile I’m covered in puke and crap and smell like rotten milk. When he is home he is VERY active and helpful. So it’s not that. I’m just jealous his world hasn’t changed and mine has I guess. This isn’t something he’s doing wrong so I’m not sure how to get past this. I wish I could keep him home all day because that’s how helpful he is, but I understand he obv needs to work.

NHS job

Anyone work for the NHS and does 12 hour shifts? How do you work around childcare and your partners job?