Support Please

I was just crying due to my own problems but read your message and you are going through things too, so sorry. I remember a doctor told me it's ok to just cry it out.

I know the loudness can get to be too much, so if you have noise cancelling earbuds or Loop, use them.
You're not ignoring your babies, you're just trying to keep sane.
Also, when my baby had a bad rash and she was crying when applying butt paste, we found spray-on diaper rash cream. Honestly, a lifesaver because she stopped screaming bloody murder and she was still protected.
Sorry you're going through this.

I agree with the first comment I was struggling with my own little one who is screaming his head off every single night no matter WHAT we do but I see where it can get so much worse. Just wanna reassure you that you are not a bad mom you’re only human and can only take so much. Take a breather if you must for 2-3 mins from the kids. They won’t die from screaming and crying. Regroup yourself and get back into it. You’re doing a great job btw! 🫶🏾

I have to hold my almost 3 month olds binky in his mouth and sway side to side and just say hush in long quiet rhythms in his left ear over and over to get him to nap right now. We also just got the Zen sleep sack and it seems to be helping him sleep but he still needs to hold our hands sometimes to fall asleep. We also use night time gripe water at night if he's really gassy and he sleeps well. Sometimes he also needs a "reset" as i call it and when he's screaming for what seems like no reason, we shake his rattle in front of him and it makes him focus on all the colors and he takes a deep breath and is back to my happy boy. Other times he just wants to talk and play. How old is your oldest? If you have a peri bottle maybe you can spray and rinse his butt instead of wiping?

I also cried tonight, it’s been a rough couple of weeks and felt at my wits end too. You aren’t a bad mum and your aren’t alone ❤️