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Advice please.

I’m looking for some advice because I don’t know if I’m overthinking this or if other people would feel the same.

I’m due in December with our baby, but my partner and I have only had sex 3 times in the last 7 months. I know pregnancy can change things for couples, but it’s really started to eat away at me and has got me quite down.

It isn’t just the sex either. We hardly cuddle or kiss anymore, and I really miss feeling wanted and having that intimacy with him. He tells me he loves me a lot, and I don’t doubt that, but I was very open from the beginning that physical affection and intimacy are important to me.

I’ve spoken to him about it and even reassured him that sex isn’t going to hurt the baby, but nothing has really changed.

Another thing that bothers me is bedtime. The first thing he does when we get into bed is go straight on TikTok. He’ll say he’s tired, but then he’ll still lie there scrolling. To me, that could have been time for us to cuddle, talk or just have a bit of closeness before going to sleep. I’ve mentioned this to him multiple times as well, but again nothing has really changed.

Obviously my body has changed quite a lot during pregnancy, and I think the lack of intimacy has made me more self-conscious about it. I’m now getting to the point where I’m genuinely questioning whether I want him there when I give birth.

Birth is probably the most physically vulnerable and exposed I’m ever going to be, and when I don’t currently feel comfortable or intimate with him physically, I don’t know how I’m going to feel having him see me like that.

I’m not trying to punish him or use the birth against him. I just don’t know whether I’ll actually feel comfortable and supported with him there when there’s been so little physical closeness between us for months.

Has anyone else felt like this towards their partner during pregnancy? Would you still have your partner there for the birth, or do you think how I’m feeling is understandable?

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