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Does anyone feel like this?

I feel like over the years I have had numerous friendships but I always feel like they all seem to fizzle out over time. I always feel like I got to always initiate to meet up or message them. Don't get me wrong there are very rare odd occasions where they will message me. However over the years I feel like there is somthing lacking in me as being a friend. Everyone always comments how bubbly, lovely and fun person I am. However why does no-one really want to chill with me?

I made new friendship over the year but I feel like if I dont plan things I never see them. Do I just need to let go and just focus on myself. However I feel like I dont want to be lonely.

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Awe I’m sorry mama. I just find life is busy and hard to connect with others. It’s not that I don’t want to, just don’t have time. Do you think people could be in the same situation as me?

I have a really good group of mom friends. One group is six of us. And then I would say I am close with another 5 moms. Plus my husbands cousins have kids around the same age as us. And it was a whole year between seeing a group of moms and my husbands cousins. Life just got in the way.

My other group of mom friends are pretty good at connecting. They are coming over to my house tomorrow for Friendsgiving with their toddlers. But it can be 2-3 months between hang outs.

I feel the same way, but ive found someone who cares about me just as much as i care about her. Sometimes we go days without talking bc life gets busy but im so happy to have at least one person in my corner

I feel that way too sometimes especially now that I'm getting older I feel like my friendships have definitely changed. I have outgrown all of the friends that I knew in high school and after. It does get lonely but I just lean on my family and I seek connections within my church and I know God will provide he always does we just have to be patient and allow genuine connections grow naturally.

Same here it gets to the point where I’m trying to figure out if there’s something wrong with me. Some friendships just aren’t meant to be forever. You might find new long term friends in adulthood that you’ll realize were better than your old ones.

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Ipswich, Is he cheating?

Hi,
I don't know if I am over worried or not. Here the fact:
My husband works near Ipswich since August, and I am in London with our children .
We have been using condoms since July as I gave birth. 5 condoms disappeared but I thought he brought them for a trip we did (we did not use them), but I never saw them again. Then 6 weeks later another condom disappeared (yes I am a psycho, I am counting our condoms 🫣). It is weird, but I was okay, it can still be explained!

This weekend he brought his bed sheets back for wash. I smelt a perfume that I don't know, it seems for me a woman perfume but I don't have a good nose. He has 4 pillow cases, it is really strong on one and it is not the one he using (his pillow case always have blood stains on them). I can smell it on the bed sheets as well but it is stronger on the pillow case.

What do you think? How can I discover if he really is cheating or not? He told me that he is not cheating on me, but I know that he can use language at his advantage at times (like he is not cheating right now but might have had).

I don't want to accuse him without strong proof.

Advice please.

I’m looking for some advice because I don’t know if I’m overthinking this or if other people would feel the same.

I’m due in December with our baby, but my partner and I have only had sex 3 times in the last 7 months. I know pregnancy can change things for couples, but it’s really started to eat away at me and has got me quite down.

It isn’t just the sex either. We hardly cuddle or kiss anymore, and I really miss feeling wanted and having that intimacy with him. He tells me he loves me a lot, and I don’t doubt that, but I was very open from the beginning that physical affection and intimacy are important to me.

I’ve spoken to him about it and even reassured him that sex isn’t going to hurt the baby, but nothing has really changed.

Another thing that bothers me is bedtime. The first thing he does when we get into bed is go straight on TikTok. He’ll say he’s tired, but then he’ll still lie there scrolling. To me, that could have been time for us to cuddle, talk or just have a bit of closeness before going to sleep. I’ve mentioned this to him multiple times as well, but again nothing has really changed.

Obviously my body has changed quite a lot during pregnancy, and I think the lack of intimacy has made me more self-conscious about it. I’m now getting to the point where I’m genuinely questioning whether I want him there when I give birth.

Birth is probably the most physically vulnerable and exposed I’m ever going to be, and when I don’t currently feel comfortable or intimate with him physically, I don’t know how I’m going to feel having him see me like that.

I’m not trying to punish him or use the birth against him. I just don’t know whether I’ll actually feel comfortable and supported with him there when there’s been so little physical closeness between us for months.

Has anyone else felt like this towards their partner during pregnancy? Would you still have your partner there for the birth, or do you think how I’m feeling is understandable?

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My oldest was born 6-17-17. Unfortunately I got into c*caine thru my ex w few years ago. I quit when I got pregnant w my next baby. But immediately back w it after (he was born 3.14.26). I’m 6 mos clean.

My ex had cheated so severely + I got w our dealer. He stopped dealing and we are both sober now. I now am the art teacher at a peer recovery center. I’ve lost a lot of friends.

Unfortunately most of my friends still use. Most of my friends aren’t parents.

I’m not a buzzkill.. I’m 420 friendly if you wanna do that, I’m ok w ppl who drink responsibly.

I just want friends who won’t judge. Friends who don’t use (marijuana and alcohol I’m ok w). Friends who are parents also in recovery etc etc etc

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Before anyone comes at me about don’t do it, it was my suggestion due to why we are long distance and the uncertainty of not seeing each other for months on end.
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