Due baby no2 any day but toddler won't stay overnight at grandparents 🥲
It's stressing me out a bit, because we are due our 2nd baby any day now.
Our son used to love staying at his grandparents house overnight when he was maybe about 1 - 1.5 years old. But then my FIL got quite unwell so he hasn't stayed overnight for about a year. Tonight we thought we'd do a little sleepover to see how he'd feel about it now he's nearly 3, knowing it's a bit different since he has more awareness that his dad and I aren't there etc.
He absolutely hated it.
We told them bedtime is 7pm, my MIL called us at 7:15pm and my son was just balling his eyes out saying he wanted to come home. It broke my heart.
We only live less than 5 mins round the road so we went over to see if we could calm him down but he just clung to me as soon as we walked through the door and begged to come home. I felt so guilty.
He absolutely adores his grandparents and loves being at their house, he's there 3 or 4 times a week usually, so part of me thought he'd really enjoy a sleepover but I know its a big ask at his age.
I'm now just really worried that I go into labour and he won't be happy staying there for a night or 2.
He had everything the same, we brought all his own bedding up, his light projector, his noise machine, everything was as much the same as we could've possibly made it.
If I had to go to the hospital during the night then my in-laws would just come round to our house and probably nap on the sofa until morning and then take him back to their house. But otherwise he'd likely have to go stay with them as we don't have a spare room for them to stay at our house.
We're really lucky to have them around to look after him, I'm just so stressed about it now and worried that I'll be worrying about him whilst giving birth! 🥲
Argh I think I just had to vent about it because I'm already feeling so much mum guilt about him not being an only child anymore and all the big changes that are happening, I just didn't think this would be such a big hurdle. I felt so guilty feeling the relief in his little body when I cuddled him in his own bed and he fell asleep instantly. I know it'll hopefully only be for 1 night during labour (after that his daddy could come home if need be), but I just feel so guilty and sad about it!
We said we'd maybe try again in a few days but I don't want him to start hating visiting his grandparents out of fear his dad and I are leaving him the whole night 😬😔
im hurting sm and i can sometimes be too in my head, idk
So today, my boyfriend watched my baby for almost three hours while I got my lashes done. I never did something like that and im 5m pp, so it was a big deal, but I appreciated it so much. Then he worked all day, like, from 3 to maybe 8. And when he came in the room, I said let's cuddle tonight (he’s been so distant and admitted it and knows its hurting me, so i straight up said it in a fun way to initiate even tho i’d want him to) and he's just always really high, but he said okay. First we ate dinner, and he hardly touched or kissed me or anything. He didnt really compliment my lashes either besides making a comment on how much they were.
And then we were upstairs, and I said I wanted to cuddle, in a playful way, and I sat on him, and he pulled me off of him and was, saying to lay next to him and not on top of him, but, like, I don't know, like, I felt kind of rejected and then I said that, and then nothing changed. he doesnt touch my butt or anything much anymore. And then our baby fell asleep in his arms, and I told him to put her in the bassinet, and he said no, because she'll wake up. And so he fell asleep cuddling her, and now I'm downstairs alone, and I just feels like, our connection is gone on his end and not mine. like i wasnt even dropping hints or testing him i was initiating closeness for him to brush it off.
It's all weird now and he gets really high too, but, he used to be hands all over me and I even said it to him today, I miss that, and then he like awkwardly put his hands on me. Like, I miss the guy who loved me, and I wanna say all this. But it pushes him away more please thoughts
