Curious

When connections are made on here who should message first?

1. The person who said yes 1st
2. The 2nd person who made the connection official

I have been wondering this because I personally feel like it should be the person who made the connection official. But maybe I'm wrong.

in our community

Baby abroad with dad

I need genuine advice whether I’m being crazy.

BD wants to take our baby who will be 12 months at the time abroad to meet his family in Georgia. He currently has her every Sunday, she’s not even been round there overnight yet. This is due to drug charges and other reasons I won’t get into.

We don’t have a court order it is informal arrangent. I have done everything myself for the past 9 months, from sleepless nights, breastfeeding to weaning. I am the primary caregiver.

I am so filled with anxiety at the thought of her being without me for a week let alone abroad?! He’s kicked off and said I’m being unreasonable and it’s not fair.

Is this normal or what? Asking me for reasons why I’m not ok with that?

So…….

So question
Do yall think 🤔 that texting other men/women online is consider cheating? Or do you think cheating is just physical and texting?

Am i a shitty mom

My son is about to be 9 months, and we currently live with his dad in a duplex. He doesnt work. If he does he works maybe 3 days and finds an excuse to quit. He says its not worth his time for what they pay. I work sunday through friday 5 am to 1:30 and i cant make ends meet. When i was on maternity leave he let bills rack up crazy and i had to use my whole retun to pay off the bills. And now ik the asshole because we obly jave about 200 dollars till i get paid again on the 18th. This is what he had to say when i complained that we wouldnt have had to use all of my return of he wouldve ketp a job that was perfect for our schedule and for our commute. He quit the job because they obly paid him 18/hr and he wasnt gonna do the job pf a machine for soemone who smokes a vape( he hates people who vape and his manager was doing so). Am i a shitty mom if i take my son away from his dad and run to harbor house? I just cant keep with financial abuse. I try everything to keep us above water and he just spits in my face about it.

Am I the only one..?

Am I the only one that, sometimes, stop myself from saying something because if the other person has a different skin colour than me I fear they might take criticism as racism?

What am I doing wrong in these convos

It hurts because I can’t even have a normal convo with this guy. Everything turns into me being the bad guy and I’m literally doing everything alone. I just want to feel okay.

Does anyone else ever feel like the “disposable” friend?

Like you show up, you care deeply, you try to be there for people… but the moment you can’t give 100%, it’s like your value drops. Like you’re only needed when you’re strong, available, and pouring into everyone else. I’m the kind of person who responds quickly and will continuously be there. I just feel like it’s not reciprocated…

I guess I’m just wondering… how do you know the difference between outgrowing a friendship and just going through a rough spot?

Would love to hear from anyone who’s felt this way 🖤