Vent

So I am being let go from my job due to company restructure. Feels like its happening everywhere this year.

Anyhow, I know this is stressing my husband to no end. We are living with his mother trying to buy a house which this puts a money wrench in that. Along with baby 3 due August.

I know he is stressed but I feel like he is emotionally punishing me for it. I wasn't fired, my end of year review was top notch. I have received many complaints from the Executive Team Leadership team and worked my ass off. Co.apny is having a cash flow issue. I make decent salary, I worked on AI project and with this they deemed my position no longer full-time.

But this coldness he is giving off is upsetting. I get that this puts us in a major bind. But why shut me out?? Why go flippin limp and have an irritable reaction when I give him a hug. Idk...

But this coldness makes me go crazy and think irrational, like f*ck it we should just divorce. 😫😭

Thanks for reading my rant

in our community

There is something sinister about my 3 year old boy.

I dont know how to explain it. When i look at him i dont feel the sane way as i do with his sibling. He has anger issues, he says things that leave me speechless, when he is angry he will things like when i grow up i will hit you with a hammer or when i grow up i will put you on fire and watch you die and i have no idea how he learnt this or where from. He only watches cartoons and he doesnt go to nursery/school. I cant love him the same way i do his sibling and i resent him alot. I really have to try my best to show equality. What do i do?

Nursery pick up

Just wondering what I’m doing wrong or if anyone else is in the same boat ☹️

My son absolutely loves nursery, however whenever I pick him up as soon as he sees me walk into the building he screams the place down, smacks me multiple times and throws himself around when I try to pick him up him up and comfort him. It just makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong, all the other mums have their kids run up to them for a massive hug and they happily go off with their mum but with my son he acts so different, it’s so embarrassing and I’ve had a few dirty looks for it, I honestly feel like crying everytime we leave the building, I just don’t know what to do, as soon as we get home his back to being my best friend again☹️

Was this rude and immature?

My brother, his partner and their baby came to visit us. We cooked fajitas. When my brothers partner got here she asked what we had for lunch. We told her we made fajitas. She started whining and complaining saying she doesn’t want that, and that she want rice and proper food. So much so that we put some rice on the cooker and my husband went out to buy her some plantain which we fried for her. Was she rude and childish for this?

How to give to 7m old??

So how would you give a sausage to a 7 month old? Solid starts says this but for example we have sausage and roasted veg quite a bit in our house as an easy dinner (fresh veg as well which is mainly what our baby has) but I like him to be able to do it himself - so am I being right that the only way you can give sausage is crumbled???

I swear my daughter was munching on whole sausages but I could be way ahead of myself here!!

My 4.5 yr old is still not potty trained and i am about to lose it

He is 4.5, and he doesnt care. We started potty training at 2 yrs old, so 2.5 years ago. He pees and poos in his underwear and sits in it for hours without telling me. The feeling of being wet and sticky from feces and pee doesnt seem to bother him. I am at my wits end. I wont know what to do anymore. I remind him every 30 min, every hour. Sometimes i take him to the toilet and he says theres nothing in my belly but 5 min later he will hide behind the couch to poop or pee freely as he is playing. I have tried every trick under the sun. Rewards, gifts, chocolate, punishment, consequences, etc. NOTHING is working. Please help. I feel like the older he is getting the harder its getting and he will be in diapers for the rest of his life.

MIL making weird comments...

My mother-in-law and I have a good relationship overall. In fact, my baby, my partner, and I are currently living with her temporarily. She has welcomed us very warmly and been quite supportive. She's not the most maternal person I know tho, that's for sure. Besides my partner, she has another son, an 8yo, and seeing how she is with him helps me understand a lot about my partner and his avoidant attachment style (since she isn't very loving and caring.
But my problem is that she uses a language I don't like when referring to both her son and mine. For example, sometimes she tells her son he's being an idiot when he's tired or hungry. Sometimes she calls him unbearable. She's never yelled at him, at least not in my presence, but I don't like that kind of language she uses with both her son and my baby. When she asks how did we slept, and we didn't sleep very well, she also calls him an idiot or unbearable, and it bothers me. I don't know how to deal with it because I don't know what to even say to her either.
But today something happened that upset me a bit. This morning, my baby was in his high chair, and she came up behind him, so he arched his back and I turned my head back to see her stretching his neck a lot. She came closer and, in a sweet tone, started running her hand along his neck, saying, "I'm going to cut your little neck, I'm going to cut your little neck!" My partner was behind me, so I didn't see his reaction. I was washing the dishes and I was stunned. I didn't know what to say because she said it in a playful or tender tone, but it didn't seem appropriate AT ALL. But she was saying it with such a sweet and playful voice, that I didn't say anything.
Has anyone else had to deal with a similar situation and can share advice on how to handle this?