Isolation

My son is 4.5 and been living with my parents since my partner passed away nearly 3 years ago. I've got into this place where I don't want to go out at all, speak to anyone and if I have to make an effort to meet a friend. I have to force myself out the house. I just feel constantly tired all the time and only love spending time with my little boy. I don't know why this is. I'm happy when I'm working but otherwise I just don't want to speak to or see anyone. Is this normal?

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Hi ive been down this road myself u are not alone and in all fairness u are protecting u and your little one, losing someone is never easy believe me but, on the other side u do need to try and get u and your little one back out in society and see the light side of life, this could be anxiety on your side but it is no suprise hun u been torn apart from your partner its all a healing process x

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I’m really sorry for your loss, what you’ve been through is huge. Honestly, what you’re describing doesn’t sound strange, sometimes your world just gets smaller because home and your child feel safest.

The tiredness and not wanting to see people can come from carrying a lot for a long time, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.

If it helps, really small things can ease that feeling a bit, like a short walk, popping out for a coffee, going to the park and having chats with other mums or even just messaging one person you feel comfortable with. No pressure, just little steps. Maybe give yourself one challenge a day and build on it.

Be gentle with yourself, you’re not alone.

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Okay so I gave birth to my beautiful babygirl a month ago now & I’m seriously struggling with my BD. We’ve known each other since high school and were good friends and kinda lost contact after graduation (we’re both 25) so a few years later we reconnected and got into w.e tf that was🙄 so he breaks up with me (due to religious differences even though he knew my religion since HS, he’s Muslim and I’m Christian) and I ended up finding out I was pregnant 2 weeks after the break up. He wasn’t there at all during my pregnancy & that was a whole hot ass mess in itself. He was there when I gave birth and signed her birth certificate & everything but he’s been extremely inconsistent since. He doesn’t check up on her, doesn’t ask about her, comes to my house to see her MAYBE once during the week (one time he went a week without acknowledging her presence) and we got into an argument about that because he didn’t show up to her one month appointment and made every excuse in the book for it even though he was right there when we scheduled it. When he didn’t see her for that whole week (this was very recent) he asked to come by and I told him no because he didn’t bother to even check on her let alone want to see her. I did everything by myself (setting up her pediatrician, making sure she got her insurance, getting her birth certificate, etc) And now once again for this week he has yet to check on her or see her and he blames it on “being busy”. I’m just so tired of being the primary parent and he just comes and goes as he pleases and yet I’m the bad guy when I call him out on it. He doesn’t appreciate the fact that I’m taking care of her 25/8 and I thank God I have my family and friends to help. I’m just so over it and I’m really trying not to resent him but it’s honestly getting really close to that point. I’m sorry this is so long but I just need to know if I would be wrong to not allow him to see her this week if he even ask….?

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