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30 & Older Moms

Need some reassurance I’m not crazy

Yesterday was my baby daughter’s baptism. I have a 20 year old step daughter. She’s been staying at my mother in law’s house since college is out because she is able to use my mother in law’s car to drive around. When my step daughter got her work schedule at the ice cream place last week she called me and said she was put on to work the baby’s baptism even though she requested off. I said it was probably an oversight, call your boss asap and let her know. Well she told my mother in law she didn’t want to go to the baptism anyway because she didn’t want to be around her father, my husband. (There has been some jealousy since baby has been born) so she never had her schedule changed. My mother in law told me she will tell her she needs to call out or find her own way to work (because she wouldn’t have my mother in laws car) because I informed her how upset I would be considering I do A LOT for my SD. Day of the baptism I get told step daughter pushed work back to 3pm leaving exactly a half hour for her to come back to the house after the baptism. They came with a family friend/neighbor. Were at our home for a half hour after the baptism, took pictures, ate and then left. I’m so upset with not only my SD but my mother in law. There were so many other ways that could have been handled. My SD could have ubered to work. They could have taken two cars. My SD could have called out like my mother in law said she was going to tell her to do. She could have atleast pushed work to 5 so she could be here for 2 hours. I feel like my mother in law didn’t want to be here either and used it as her excuse to leave “oh I need to bring her to work” … no you don’t… she drives your car lol. My mother in law has been calling me all day and texting me and quite honestly I don’t know what to say to her. We get along quite well and talk daily but I’m so upset. They were the only other guests invited besides the god parents. I could have saved so much money, time, energy and we could have just taken the god parents to a nice restaurant for cheaper than what I spent to make the day so special. Not to mention my baby is named after my mother in law, and wore my mother in laws original baptism dress from 67 years ago.