How do yall spice up your sex life?

I was going to buy a sexy lingerie for my man and wear it to tease him. Lately our sex life hasn’t been the best. He’s finishing too quickly and I’m not finishing at all. How do I even bring it up to him I haven’t been satisfied lately.. I finish off in the bathroom with my 🌹

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We started sending eachother dirty stuff while he’s at work
I wear lingerie
It helps I feel

Toys and accessories (handcuffs, blindfold, paddle) but not every time

Send him kinky photos or videos earlier in the day and ask him to masturbate, (or in the shower when he gets home) so then the night session later can go longer coz he’s already came for the day, usually the second one of the day lasts longer. Hubby has a folder of all my kinky photos and videos (and he’s recorded some of me in the act) on his hidden folder in his album that needs FaceID to access (both him and mine, my boy scrolls through my phone I don’t want him seeing those lol) and sext, throughout the day. Get him excited wayyyyy before you actually start and he looks forward to it knowing tonight is gonna be kinky. Lingerie helps. As does sensual music. Put makeup and heels on and give him a lap dance. On date nights we fit a quickie in the car before we get home lol. If he’s not parked in a dark secluded place he’ll go find a dark secluded place.

I’ve never finished with my husband and he hates lingerie

I used to sext him but I’m also a freak and tried just about everything in 21 years lol (really 18 years cuz we now have our 3 yr old and I don’t want sex)

in our community

I just have to get this out here somewhere I’m soooo sick of people getting within a few miles of class consciousness and collective liberation and then taking a hard left and scapegoating Jewish people instead, or trans people

Or black people or women or whatever group the rotating arrow of right wing scapegoats lands on next. No, candace Owen’s, Tucker Carson, Marjorie Taylor green, nick fuentes etc are not waking up they are GRIFTING. And if your anti colonialism starts and ends with Israel but you glaze people who tout the great replacement theory and the “america first” agenda that’s literally white Christian nationalism you’re not anti ethno state you’re just confused and highly gullible. Make linking all human rights and liberation the litmus test I beg of you

Sex

Im a month postpartum and for about two weeks, i have been feeling alot more in the mood. I keep telling my partner i want to have sex. But hes scared about me getting pregnant again and so am i. But he wont wrap it up. Any advice?

Looking for a bestie for me and my kiddo

Hi guys I’m Dani I’m 38 years old my baby girl is 5 months almost 6 her names sunflower and we call her sunny! I love laughing music nature I live in Tucson Arizona or I wouldn’t mind just mom friends on line

Going back to work

My maternity pay is about to stop and I just can’t bring myself to go back to work! I am self employed so no rush back but we need the money.

I have postnatal anxiety and can’t leave my baby for more than an hour never mind with someone else other than my mum.

My mum works shifts which change every week so I can’t commit to anything. Does anyone know what type of job I could do without pushing my boundaries too much?

Noob question about re-entering society

Hi, very very basic q from anxious about to be first mum. When did you feel up to going out to socialise after the baby or even just out for a coffee? How soon were you getting back into the world?

Need some reassurance I’m not crazy

Yesterday was my baby daughter’s baptism. I have a 20 year old step daughter. She’s been staying at my mother in law’s house since college is out because she is able to use my mother in law’s car to drive around. When my step daughter got her work schedule at the ice cream place last week she called me and said she was put on to work the baby’s baptism even though she requested off. I said it was probably an oversight, call your boss asap and let her know. Well she told my mother in law she didn’t want to go to the baptism anyway because she didn’t want to be around her father, my husband. (There has been some jealousy since baby has been born) so she never had her schedule changed. My mother in law told me she will tell her she needs to call out or find her own way to work (because she wouldn’t have my mother in laws car) because I informed her how upset I would be considering I do A LOT for my SD. Day of the baptism I get told step daughter pushed work back to 3pm leaving exactly a half hour for her to come back to the house after the baptism. They came with a family friend/neighbor. Were at our home for a half hour after the baptism, took pictures, ate and then left. I’m so upset with not only my SD but my mother in law. There were so many other ways that could have been handled. My SD could have ubered to work. They could have taken two cars. My SD could have called out like my mother in law said she was going to tell her to do. She could have atleast pushed work to 5 so she could be here for 2 hours. I feel like my mother in law didn’t want to be here either and used it as her excuse to leave “oh I need to bring her to work” … no you don’t… she drives your car lol. My mother in law has been calling me all day and texting me and quite honestly I don’t know what to say to her. We get along quite well and talk daily but I’m so upset. They were the only other guests invited besides the god parents. I could have saved so much money, time, energy and we could have just taken the god parents to a nice restaurant for cheaper than what I spent to make the day so special. Not to mention my baby is named after my mother in law, and wore my mother in laws original baptism dress from 67 years ago.