Friend on this app

Anyone else just sick of people putting in their bio or on a group page that they want to make friends and meet up but when you message them the conversion goes dead fast and they don’t seem interested. It’s hard when you have no friends as it is and socially awkward so you don’t go out either and hoped to make friends on here and eventually meet up. So annoying

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The loneliness of being the only mum in the group

Does anyone else feel like becoming a mum has made you an outsider in your own friend group?

I love my friends, but I’m the only mum among them. Lately it’s been quietly exhausting, I’m always the one who has to ask for the plan to change. “Can we meet somewhere a bit closer? Or even in the middle? Can we meet earlier because I can’t do dinners right now? Can we meet somewhere I can take the baby?” Every single time, it falls on me to raise it, because no one else has to think about it. While I understand that it’s hard to think about someone’s circumstances when you haven’t experienced them, is it wrong for me to expect a little more consideration?

This weekend it was a suggested meet up over an hour and twenty minutes away. Before my daughter, I wouldn’t have batted an eye at, but now I have to think about how fast I can get back if she needs me. I just sat there wondering, am I overreacting or have I just become an afterthought?

The loneliness of being the only mum in a group is so specific and so hard to explain, especially to my friends who are in completely different chapter of their lives. You’re surrounded by people who love you, and still feel completely unseen.

Anyone else navigating this?

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Im realizing more and more how I don’t have a “village” how I’m really doing this alone with my fiancé but even then he goes to work daily and I’m home alone with no one. I currently need to go to the hospital because there may be a blood clot in my leg and no one can help with my girls and they’re sick so it makes it difficult.
Just knowing I don’t have a support system outside of my fiancé really just sucks. It makes me so sad.

Emotionally unintelligent men

How do you stay married to them?

We didn’t start this way I swear.

How do you cope in the marriage? Do you find somewhere else to confide in emotionally?

I hope this doesn’t sound as dumb as I think

I’m starting to think the reason I don’t have any friends or a community is just because people are jealous. I know this sounds really stuck up and kind of air headed but I really think this could be it. Most people don’t show me any warmth it feels like even if I’m trying to be friendly and join a conversation they all just stare at me and look me up and down and look at each other like I’m making them uncomfortable, of course this makes me uncomfortable so I just walk away. And I can hear them laughing as soon as I do. This used to really get to me and hurt my feelings mainly because it made no sense. I’m not saying I’m beautiful by any means but I think people just might see things that they want and weirdly exclude me from things because of it. Does anyone else have this experience? like you know you’re not mean, and youre socially competent, but still feel like a freak that doesn’t belong

Being a sahm

How does everyone cope with being a sahm I am considering becoming one as I’m so done with work I’m about to go on maternity leave for the second time.

Little context I went on maternity with my first and absolutely loved being home with my little one then went back to work 3 days a week when first was 8months old and felt like I was missing out on a lot but luckily I got to see my first do all his first I’m glad for that, now I’ve switched jobs and they don’t allow hours change so would have to go back to doing the same hours as before maternity leave but this second time round feel like I’m gonna miss out as my job don’t allow hours changes so feel like I’m gonna miss more this time round.

My partner has said he would support me if I do decide to become a sahm but I’ve always said to myself that I don’t wanna rely on anyone but lately I feel like I might have to change my mind on relying on someone else, he also said he would change his job to make sure we have enough money to support my choice.

Could you let me know how you cope and why you choose to be a sahm I need positive and negative feedback for this please.

If u don’t feel comfortable with commenting under this post please let me know and I’ll message you privately.

Partner may have gone to strip club

So when I was about 2 months pregnant I found texts on my partners tablet that is connected to his phone from a stripper. (They did not meet up I called him before the time) It had a location meet up time and place. The strip club is down the road from his work and my job at the time. He had shut off his phone for what he claimed to be a work meeting. When I got home from work I decided to check his tablet. I had a really bad feeling and the feeling was right. I called him crying and upset he claimed and still does that it wasn’t him. But the hotel was booked under his name and card, and it all just links back to him. We had broken up over the phone and I said I was going to get an abortion (I couldn’t afford the baby alone and had no where to go) he told me to go for it. We ended up fixing things and we kept our baby girl she is now almost 4 months old.
But I can’t get it out of my brain. His card has been hacked before and I know someone who would be more than willing to try and break us up because he wanted to date me. But texting the stripper myself she said he only got a lap dance but refused to identify if the picture was him. Every time I asked and sent the photo of him she would dodge the question which makes me wonder if his number was being used on Google texts by this guy that has tried to break us up in the past.

I know I have chosen to stay with him even with the knowledge it was more than likely him and he just won’t admit it but part of me wants to give him the benefit of the doubt because anytime I have ever caught him doing something (usually just looking at girls on Instagram) he has admitted it. He even got rid of all his social media because he realized he had a problem and it wasn’t fair to me. That his work schedule is what keeps him away from home and makes him too tired to do anything when he gets home. We had broken up for about a month or two almost 2 years ago at this point and we were still living together but tried dating others but realized that we didn’t want to split and then I became pregnant the spring we got back together.
Another point I’d like to make is he has NEVER had an interest in strip clubs but his boss and coworkers talk about going all the time and I know he has had to go to a few places he didn’t want to because that’s where his boss decided the work meeting would be. Which is really annoying because he has celiac disease so he would end up just sitting there while everyone else ate.
I don’t plan on leaving him and we are getting married next month but how if you were me would you get yourself to just move on from it. I’m a SAHM so I can’t just work to forget about it I’m at home and everything just goes to my head now.