Husband not saying hi to our baby

I get home, husband comes out to greet me. I grab our baby & put him in his stroller. I tell him I need to grab the diaper bag, he grabs it for me. The whole walk inside doesn’t even acknowledge our son, he even goes to the kitchen, doesn’t even touch him.. he goes to poop, I bring it up & he quickly defends himself. He uses the excuse that he had to poop & can’t control his bowel movements. As we’re walking in, I see him look over to the pretty neighbors house which I’m pretty sure I’ve caught him looking over there before. I try to believe that he’s not but how you just gonna glance in that one direction as we’re turning the corner. I kind of blow up when I tell him he didn’t acknowledge our baby, he gets mad interrupted his poop & opened the door & how I didn’t close the door. I told him he can close it himself, he slams the door.. then comes out & says he’s leaving. I said you can feed your son, he tells me not to talk to him & that he won’t be talked to that way. (4 weeks post partum btw)

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I think it's weird he didn't say hi to the baby, but I also think this is a pretty big overreaction from you to the situation presented in the post. Hormones can be a wild ride.

Maybe he was waiting to hang out with him inside?

Oh it’s time to let go of his ass. It’s giving AVOIDANT! That’s weird! Plan to Leave him

Very weird he’s got something going on I’d say and not open to communicating about it. He should be somewhat excited especially bringing home a boy not girl right? Its also annoying he didn’t come home with you from the start.

That’s exactly what my husband does

Being that the baby is 1 month old, saying hi is a stretch. When my baby was that young I didn’t give him greetings like that, I’d usually pick him up and snuggle him. He could have probably wanted to wait until he was situated to do so. Is it the first time? Is it ongoing? I think that’s where it becomes an issue. He could have not felt clean enough (I had a covid baby for reference) and I didn’t touch him much if I had been cleaning or exposed to germs or whatever. Some people are still very serious about that when it comes to babies that young. If I even woke up with a sore throat, I stayed away but still helped. So I wouldn’t say leave like the previous comment without context, but I’d def say communicate and deliver it in a better way.

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